Okay, we know that cats are independent and it’s said they rule the house - not the owner.
Right before I got my kitty almost 4 yrs ago I bought a blue armchair for my bedroom. After she settled in, I tried to “make” her do things like:
-I thought the big, soft blue chair was the perfect “perch” spot. I used to put her in the chair, but she would jump off. I gave up. Then, suddenly this past week, she
decided the blue chair is her new favorite spot.
-Lay in her pet bed (she would not go near it, then one day after about a year I saw her taking a nap in her bed)
-Lay on my bed (I used to pick her up, coo/talk soft, but she wanted no part of it. Took about 2 years, but eventually she developed a routine where she would get on my bed after her dinner. But she almost always jumps off when I go to bed.)