I drank 1-2 coffees my entire pregnancy. I craved it. (except in trimester 1 both times). I also drank diet pop. Same thing. I craved it. I felt so guilty about the one diet pop per day and still worry about some health issue cropping up in the future. I just couldn't seem to quit. Some weeks I'd maybe 5 pops in a week. My boss did say something snarky to me about it. and I seethed inwardly. I know I wasn't making the best decision and it hurt.
I also thought about all the chemicals I was putting in my body with pretty much everything that was store bought and not raw/organic. etc. It is very overwhelming being pregnant and following the newest advice and not being judged. If you are not eating something bad for you, maybe you're doing something you shouldn't. Sigh.
then after the pregnancy, why aren't you at pre pregnancy rate 6 weeks after birth? I am lugging around 10 additional pounds from pregnancy 1 and 10 more from pregnancy 2. plus I was 10 lbs extra before I got pregnant. I run 3x per week, not far, just enough to keep myself active. I hope to return to pre pregnancy running form in a year or two. Someone asked me how my running was going (6 months post partum). I said I was dong 3x per week 20 min, but hopefully I will start to be able to increase my running to 5 and 10 k. The person said how good I was doing. I was kind of perplexed. Good? He mentioned that babies are hard and running after 2 kids and getting your strength, stamina and flexibility back all take time. I guess you just hear about the people who run marathons before, during and after baby and do other things. He said, mainly these people are genetically blessed or it is their jobs. It doesn't happen to the average person.
I will admit that I was a judgy breastfeeding person before giving birth to my first. Someone said she nursed for 6 weeks and I was thinking some not nice things about how easily they gave up. Guess who didn't even make it 2 weeks breastfeeding my first? Humble pie for me. but my second one is breastfed and has been for 6 months. I have been tired as the baby has been getting up in the night for an extra feeding My mother in law made a crack about how if i still "Insisted on nursing."
the bottom line is that you can't win.