My mom doesn't like driving. When she was a a teenager, she lost a beloved relative to drunk driver which I believe was very traumatic for her.
Four years ago she and my dad bought me a car - I'd like to highlight that it was completely their idea, I never asked for it and at first I tried to talk them out of it. Then I discovered how confortable driving was as opposed to dealing with public transport and I never looked back.
The trouble is, my mother doesn't want me to drive my car. If I mention plans to go somewhere (within our city), she immediately tells me "don't tell me if you take the car! Actually, do you have to take the car? Can't DF drive you? Can't you take the bus?"
If I protest, the answer is always the same: "it's not that I don't trust you, I don't trust all the other drivers on the road"
I am 26 years old. I have had my licence for 7 years, I was involved in a car crash once 7 years ago (allright, plus a couple of miscalculations involving the distance of a wall or the garage doors). As for the car crash, it was completely my fault, but no other vehicles or people were involved.
I do not drink, ever (so no danger of drunk/tipsy driving), I do not text while driving, I have never been stopped by the police or received a speeding ticket or a fine.
When asked, DF (universally recognized as a very good driver) said I'm not a bad driver just anxious (gee, I wonder why...) and I need more practice. I don't plan to take the car when it's not practical, but if I don't drive when it is easier/faster/more confortable than the bus, then I'll never get any practice.
Mom and I are meeting tomorrow to run a couple of errands - we could use just a car once we are together, but first I need to get to her house. She already told me she wants me to take the bus - or she could come and get me in the morning, drive me back to her house (our first destination is close by) and I'd get back home by bus when we are done, which is a bit impractical for me.
Should I keep catering to her fears? Or should I put my foot down and start using my car even when I'm going to meet her?