I agree with a lot of the comments. I know some anxious people in my life and it is a very hard thing to deal with. Some of them are very good about passing on their anxiety to others. Then I take a step back and I think, "Wait, why am I anxious about X? I wasn't before. Oh, it's because Sue tells me all the time how anxious she is about it."
My boss is very anxious. That's tough to deal with because she's my boss, and I feel obligated to go along with some of her fears because they're work-related. Like if the worldwide standard is for people to use a certain piece of equipment alone, but she has these irrational anxieties about things that could go wrong with it and so she decrees that in her office, people will use it in pairs--I don't feel like I can defy that, because she's the boss and she gets to make the rules for her office (within reason, of course, but I don't feel that particular rule is worth fighting). So not only do I always use that equipment in pairs, I teach other people to do it that way as well, and people from other offices laugh at us, and it's inconvenient to schedule, but frankly, I'd rather not have my boss mad at me.
On the other hand, for a work trip, my boss does not get to dictate how I get to the airport (I should make a reliable friend or family member pick me up at 4am instead of hiring a taxi, because my boss doesn't trust taxis? No). She doesn't get to dictate what flights I take (unless it's a matter of time/money, since work is paying for it). She doesn't get to dictate how I get between home and work, or where I go to lunch (sushi! the horror!), or what I do in my free time. It took me a long time to realize and draw these boundaries, and to deflect her appropriately. Now I do what I want and I give her very little information, and what I do say, I say firmly as a done deal. "How are you getting to the airport?" "I arranged for a taxi." "Couldn't your dad drive you instead? You know how taxis..." "No, I arranged for a taxi."
On another topic, I do like my parents to call me when they get home from visiting me, because they're old and live in the country and the weather hasn't been great lately. Sometimes they voluntarily call when they come home from being somewhere else, which always kind of surprises me, but pleasantly so. When I'm traveling I text them as I arrive in various places (airport 1, airport 2, hotel...) but I'm a contrary person; if they insisted
I do it, I probably wouldn't.
My boss tried to insist I do it for her and I just don't, because I know for her it's a matter of anxiety and not a legitimate professional need, and I don't want to give in to that.