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« Reply #75 on: February 12, 2014, 01:03:14 PM »
Last year my workplace made everyone stay late and work a holiday and weekends to get ahead just because the owner wanted us to, not for any particular reason. We were given a vague promise of "compensation" for complying. Actually, we were voluntold to work extra hours all week, and pressured into doing so, all with the dangling carrot of "compensation" ahead. A year later, still no "compensation" has come our way for doing this. And the company is shocked -- SHOCKED -- that everyone clocks out the second their eight-hour workday is up and no one will work free overtime anymore.

They're also flummoxed as to why we no longer are so far ahead in our work. While no one's breathed a word of a work slowdown, deflated morale has obviously taken its toll.

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« Reply #76 on: February 12, 2014, 01:15:26 PM »
So when the new schedule came out I was surprised to see I was working grad night. On my break I went and talked to her and explained I would not be working that night, I was going to my graduation. She told me "You already graduated, this is just a ceremony", I said yes, but it was an important ceremony and I was going to which she responded "Well, you're a grown up now, and your work comes first. Everyone else wants the night off, so you gotta work it. You need to show your loyalty to me and to this company". I walked away from her, grabbed my bag and went to the bathroom to change out of my uniform shirt. Which I handed back to her and said "I quit, my loyalty  is to my family who have waited 13 years to watch me walk across that stage" and walked out.

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A lot of it was my mom. She wouldn't even let me graduate in the fall in less I had a guarantee (she made my principal give it to her in writing) that I'd be able to walk with my class in May. She didn't graduate (she got her GED) and neither did my grandma, so it was a big deal that I walk. She gave me whole speech about "I got you to school everyday for 13 years, I helped you with your homework, I got you to choir practices, girl scouts, speech and debate, I bought candy, I helped you build a castle, some kind of bridge thing, and a million other craft projects, I am going to watch you walk across a stage in a cap and gown. That is my payoff!", so there was no not going to graduation. I knew a few kids who weren't gonna go because it "wasn't important", I did not understand this idea.

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« Reply #77 on: February 12, 2014, 01:37:15 PM »
Last year my workplace made everyone stay late and work a holiday and weekends to get ahead just because the owner wanted us to, not for any particular reason. We were given a vague promise of "compensation" for complying. Actually, we were voluntold to work extra hours all week, and pressured into doing so, all with the dangling carrot of "compensation" ahead. A year later, still no "compensation" has come our way for doing this. And the company is shocked -- SHOCKED -- that everyone clocks out the second their eight-hour workday is up and no one will work free overtime anymore.

They're also flummoxed as to why we no longer are so far ahead in our work. While no one's breathed a word of a work slowdown, deflated morale has obviously taken its toll.

Years ago, the president of the company I worked for tried to get us to come in on a Saturday to "clean."  He liked having absolutely nothing on his desk at any time, and he wanted all desks to look like his.  Someone did let him know that labor laws would require that 4 hours of work on a Saturday be compensated at overtime rates.  So his solution was to throw a party!  4 hours of completely denuding desks of all paper, and we would get to eat free pizza!

No one showed up.
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« Reply #78 on: February 12, 2014, 01:48:23 PM »
My mom once got in trouble (state employee) for suggesting her team come clean the bathroom on the weekend.

She and they were really frustrated because they felt the bathroom was disgusting, and they kept sending in cleaning requests, which were supposedly "met," and they said to each other, "that's not clean!"

So Mom said, "I'm coming in this weekend, and I'm going to clean it the way it SHOULD be, so I can SHOW them!!! I'd love some help." Two of the ladies did.

Mom said, "I really didn't think about it as required, but I got in trouble for it. But it was a nice feeling to stand there and point to the grime-less surfaces and edges, and say 'THIS is clean!' And I will say, they cleaned it properly ever after." I think the fact that they'd been moved to do this meant that their supervisors said to the cleaning people, "Do -your- job right!"

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« Reply #79 on: February 12, 2014, 01:54:33 PM »
I have a friend of expects to be invited to everything anyone else is doing, but doesn't feel the need to include everyone else in her events.

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« Reply #80 on: February 12, 2014, 02:09:26 PM »
Not work related, but I did get in an argument with my mother when I expressed an interest in moving to the Midwest.  Now this was not even a plan, simply an interest.  But you really couldn't say "I'd like to visit X someday" cause she'd assume you were planning on going tomorrow and would lecture you at length on what a bad idea it was, etc.

Anyway, as predicted when she found out, she went nuts and insisted we had to stay close to them because they  were our "support system".  ::)  Support to them meaning "We'll support you so long as you do everything we think you should be doing."

Well we didn't move to the Midwest because DH didn't want to move far from his parents who do deserve our loyalty cause they are good people, but we did move about 60 miles west within the same state to a smaller town and that suits us. :)

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« Reply #81 on: February 12, 2014, 02:14:53 PM »
I was expected to help fetch the work vehicle I was driving during our delightful southern Snowpacolypse that got stuck in a ditch and broken into overnight the day after the storm. The state was still on lockdown (don't go out unless it's an emergency, abandoned vehicles everywhere which are why I got stuck where I was) and I had walked 8 miles in the snow with bronchitis before being picked up by an off-duty cop to get back to work the previous afternoon.

My boss called at 9:30 am after I had gotten home at 8:30 pm and told me that he was picking me up to drive 12 miles down icy roads to fetch it. I very politely told him I was sick and no way in heck was I going out there. 

Today again he's upset no one will/can go to the office to take care of some important things and he has to do it himself. He owns 2 4WD vehicles and the business. This is all on him.

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« Reply #82 on: February 12, 2014, 02:40:40 PM »
It's like she's watched all the shows with the super tight groups of friends, and wants that,

Urgh. I had to explain to a previous friend that the reason TV shows have these super tight groups of friends is because being that close for so long creates drama. They need drama because they are a TV show. I don't need drama because I am not on a TV show. Space is healthy and normal. Being in each other's pockets is not.

Maybe this should go in the "Things you can't believe you had to tell another adult" thread, but I had to explain to someone that TV, being, well, not real, meant that just because a woman on a TV show found [thing] attractive and deeply romantic did not mean that his GF would automatically also find [thing] attractive and deeply romantic.

He was all put out because: "I walked sooooooo far and did [thing] for her and she didn't do anything besides say 'thanks'!" Sorry dude, but the only time doing [thing] gets the GF to leap into your arms and cover you with tearful kisses is when it's been written by Nicholas Sparks and is accompanied by a soundtrack. He's a good person, but he sort of assumes that everything on TV is a little closer to the real world than it truly is.
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« Reply #83 on: February 12, 2014, 03:23:02 PM »
Had an ex who, after the breakup, tried to get back together with me and another of his exes at the same time. He'd get upset if I went somewhere cool and didn't invite him, even if I was just going by myself. He'd go through periods of not talking to me because it was "too hard" but if I wanted space from him, he'd get upset. He once snubbed me in public and then texted me passive-aggressive remarks on how I didn't say hello.  His final hissy fit came when he got some bad news and I went out to eat instead of immediately dashing off to a location where he'd eventually be, ready with open arms to comfort him when he arrived. His exit flounce was the best thing that happened to me and severed the remaining strings of a very dysfunctional relationship.

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« Reply #84 on: February 12, 2014, 05:33:42 PM »
Friendship loyalty--I was the bad guy here.  At my first real job (oh so many years ago) I had a coworker who quickly became a friend.  But we worked in different departments and only saw each other for lunch. 

She got a new job in another state.  She handed me a form that she billed as a character reference. It was clearly something asking for an assessment of her job skills by a supervisor....which I was not.  I showed her that and she took it back cheerfully enough....but refused to speak to me from that day on and told coworkers I was unsupportive and unhelpful.

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« Reply #85 on: February 12, 2014, 05:48:45 PM »
I am failing to see you as the bad guy for not committing an act of fraud on her behalf.
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« Reply #86 on: February 12, 2014, 05:59:53 PM »
It's like she's watched all the shows with the super tight groups of friends, and wants that,

Urgh. I had to explain to a previous friend that the reason TV shows have these super tight groups of friends is because being that close for so long creates drama. They need drama because they are a TV show. I don't need drama because I am not on a TV show. Space is healthy and normal. Being in each other's pockets is not.

Maybe this should go in the "Things you can't believe you had to tell another adult" thread, but I had to explain to someone that TV, being, well, not real, meant that just because a woman on a TV show found [thing] attractive and deeply romantic did not mean that his GF would automatically also find [thing] attractive and deeply romantic.

He was all put out because: "I walked sooooooo far and did [thing] for her and she didn't do anything besides say 'thanks'!" Sorry dude, but the only time doing [thing] gets the GF to leap into your arms and cover you with tearful kisses is when it's been written by Nicholas Sparks and is accompanied by a soundtrack. He's a good person, but he sort of assumes that everything on TV is a little closer to the real world than it truly is.

Reminds me of the stories about the (fictional) technique called the "Venus Butterfly" on LA Law, lo, these many years ago (late 1980s, I think - maybe as late as 1990, based on where we were living). 

Apparently a LOT of librarians (pre-internet or very, very early internet days) got asked for the copies of the various advice books that had the instructions on how the Venus Butterfly was done, because it was supposed to be infallible.

After all, the WRITERS on LA Law wrote it that way!  So, how is it done?

It's not just the aliens in Galaxy Quest who had no real grasp of or understanding of the concept of "not-true" tales being told for purely entertainment purposes - either it is the truth or it is a lie and if it is on TV, the internet, in a book, etc. (fill in the blank) then it can't be made up for purely entertainment purposes!
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« Reply #87 on: February 12, 2014, 06:16:48 PM »
I have two for my first job.  I was underpaid and worked to death.  We were given one week of vacation per year but actually getting approval was hard.  Or you would get it approved and then some 'emergency' would come along and you'd have to cancel with the promise that you could reschedule. (snort)

So I was able to take a week off and went to visit my parents in another state.  I got a call on my cell from work.  Apparently, the Boss's Pet messed something up and Boss demanded I come in ASAP to fix it.   I told them I was unable to do that because I was hours away on vacation.  He told me I was a terrible employee and not a team player and hung up on me.  BTW, there was absolutely no reason the Boss's Pet couldn't have fixed the problem himself.  He just thought it was beneath him to do so. 

Things were a little frosty after that.

The second one is on my last day in the office.  I'd quit for greener pastures and had decided to take my unused vacation before I started my new job.

Boss approached me as I was leaving and said something like, "Okay, so we'll call you next week to set up time for you to come in and help out until we get the new person trained."  (Something I had NEVER agreed to or even offered to do.)

HAHAHAHA!  I gleefully told him I was going to be out of the country for a week and then starting my new job and that simply wasn't possible. 

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« Reply #88 on: February 12, 2014, 09:06:35 PM »
I used to have boss who, at her worst, fired a bunch of people for getting together outside of work.
What the…? No. I hope someone reported to her, because that's a million kinds of wrong.

Oh yes. There were a number of us who filed complaints against her with the employment/labour ministry for missing wages, unfair dismissal etc. It was just over a year ago and I think it's pretty much been a 100% turn over since then. As far as I know she's still pulling the same stunts but I refuse to go near that place to confirm because it raises my blood pressure too much just thinking about her.

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« Reply #89 on: February 13, 2014, 12:56:00 PM »
I used to have boss who, at her worst, fired a bunch of people for getting together outside of work.
What the…? No. I hope someone reported to her, because that's a million kinds of wrong.

Oh yes. There were a number of us who filed complaints against her with the employment/labour ministry for missing wages, unfair dismissal etc. It was just over a year ago and I think it's pretty much been a 100% turn over since then. As far as I know she's still pulling the same stunts but I refuse to go near that place to confirm because it raises my blood pressure too much just thinking about her.

I'm sorry to hear that. How is she even still employed? She needs to be served a hot dish of karma.