It is Monday night. I am sitting here and I heard a knock at my door. I am not expecting anyone. Why open the door if I am not expecting anyone? Even if it's not him, could be a salesperson, or someone looking to case the place or worse. Whomever it was that knocked was very persistent. They kept knocking and knocking for about 5 full minutes. Then my phone rang. I have not checked to see who it is, because my phone is sitting in the kitchen, where I have curtains wide open (it's been dark for an hour and I just haven't got around to closing them). In case he walked around the back. I don't want him to see me. I'm on an upper floor. So what he would see from outside is, all my lights on, car out front, curtains at front closed, and a full view into the kitchen. So now I feel I have to hide in my front room for the next half hour to make sure he's gone by the time I venture into the kitchen, and I wanted to make dinner in a few minutes.
Not that I am scared of him, but I WAS NOT EXPECTING HIM. I thought he was going to be away till Wed. I told him I don't like drop-ins, and he seemed to agree not to do it, and NOW HE'S DONE IT ANYWAY.
What if I had company? What if I had a new guy in my life and they happened to be over for dinner? What if I was waiting for a new date to pick me up? What if this is just a plain old interruption to whatever it was I was doing? (It *is* 7 PM when a lot of people are eating dinner).
I don't appreciate having my personal space invaded in this way, having to hide out in my living room when I am hungry, and it confirms what I feel and what you are all telling me to do.