Sorry to sort of derail the thread. Son is being a twit, no doubt about it. We are walking a fine line with him, and he is seeking professional help.
He was accepted into an excellent university, so therefore knows everything, enough that since he does not like class Y, he decides he does not have to turn in a certain major paper.
Yeah, he tanked his chance at valedictorian with that one.
And, he has not been applying for scholarships, because, "money is not important. Besides, I will get a good job when I graduate." He is a National Merit Finalist, but that will only scratch the surface for his tuition.
I HATE what he has been doing to himself. But he is 18, and almost fully cooked. He can cook, do laundry, and even basic sewing, and he behaves great in public, I get rave reviews from him at church, and surprisingly, even from the teacher whose class he does not like.
Still, his telling me to "calm down" was maddening.
bopper nailed it.
Can't live with them, can't kill them.