DH and I are happily married, and will contribute what we have been saving for years for DS. We will not go into debt ourselves.
DS he applied early decision to a private university, and will have to face his own decisions.
As for drama on another level--
I was subbing for a young grade school class. Lunch rules are that you have to ask the teacher before you leave the table, whether to buy more food, grab a forgotten straw, run to the restroom, etc...
As the two weekly classroom helpers were beginning to push the wheeled trashcan around the table and collect trays, one girl began to sob and pout.
"Where is my FOOD ITEM? Some one threw it AWAY!"
I went over and discovered that this child had determined on her own, at the end of lunch, to get up without permission and order a snack food item that if she had asked, would have been told NO for several reasons.
I then realized that the reason she was not with her food item when it was thrown away was because she left for the restroom, without permission.
I checked with another teacher (I am a sub) and then went to girl, who was ramping up the drama, "That was MY food item!! Why was it in the trash? Girl XYZ is not my friend any more because she thought she was helping me but she was not!"
And I got down to the girl's level and had this chat with her-
"Did you disobey by ordering food item without permission, at clean-up time, knowing that you would not be allowed?"
"Did you disobey by going to the restroom without permission?"
"Then you do not need to involve anyone else in who moved you food item. It was your choice to disobey and if you continue to fuss, we can talk more while your classmates are playing at recess."
Later, when another classmate was hurt enough by a tree to visit the nurse for first aid treatment, this girl suddenly also had to go to the nurse, because an old scratch at the top of her foot that was already scabbing over was bothering her terribly.
I would not let her go, and offered a salve and a bandaid. She huffed and finally agreed to a bandaid only, after beginning to pull off the wrong shoe
- think back of left heel vs. top of right ankle! lol
Anyway, my rambling point is this-
I was calm and logical and did not give in to the demands of this about 7 year old child.
If I had given her another treat at lunch, or sent her to the nurse, she would learn that she can get what she wants if she fusses enough. I asked her to find a way to work through her own thoughts and dilemma.
I never asked her to calm down. I knew from this thread, and experience, not to say that!
I left a note for the teacher and she was thrilled
that I did not give in to the drama queen.