I've got a fairly silly one for everybody. My dad had some... interesting ideas... about what constituted proper wedding etiquette. I'm wondering how many of them have merit - possibly in outdated rules about etiquette or something. Before I share them, I want to point out that he didn't cause a fuss or a fight about any of them and all of the conversations were good-natured.
Here are the biggest ones he told us:
- Bridesmaids and groomsmen cannot be married. I cracked up at this one because he said it a couple months before the ceremony -- long after the bridesmaids, groomsmen and one bridesman had been chosen. It came up because DH said he wanted something traditional (I can't remember what) and dad's response was to say we were already being non-traditional because of married wedding parties... ignoring the bridesman though...
- No flower girls over 6 yrs old. He didn't argue that point because the only girl we knew well enough to trust besides my 10-yr-old cousin was 2.5 yrs at the time of the ceremony so he said we could 'make an exception' so the younger girl had someone keeping an eye on her.
- The Pastor is supposed to tell everyone where to stand in the processional and decide the music for the ceremony. I've never heard of that, but my mom mentioned that's how things worked at their church when they get married so maybe it was a local thing. That was in response to DH and I getting an e-mail from the organist where we were doing the ceremony asking us to choose songs.
- And my favorite/the reason this went into the Wedding Day section: "The bride is supposed to arrive at least 5, if not 15 minutes late to the ceremony venue." I cashed in my bridezilla chip on that one because he didn't bust it out until 20 minutes before we were supposed to leave because I asked him why he didn't have his tux on. He thought he had another 40 minutes.
Like I said - my dad's a good-natured man so none of these were family fights or blow ups. Mostly they were just head-scratchers because I honestly didn't know if they were correct or not - so, mostly out of curiosity - I thought I would toss it up to the experts. Thoughts? Any of these ring true about wedding etiquette?