I think the takeaway is to give whatever you want to give, and to be thankful for whatever you are given. I just think it is naive and self-centered to expect that your (general) gift will or should be more appreciated because of the thought you put into it. I don't think there is anything wrong with preferring to be given what we said we prefer, whether that is flatware or handmade quilts or zipline adventures. It doesn't make us shallow to not want for ourselves what you want to give us. You might hit the nail on the head with your off-registry "this is what I want to give them" gift, and that's great! But if your motivation is to be thought of as "Sally - she never buys from the registry but always finds just the right thing!" I expect you will be disappointed with the reality (although hopefully you will simply be graciously thanked even though your thoughtful gift goes into storage).
TurtleDove, you are the one who stated that if you want to assure your gift is appreciated, give from the registry.
I stated that as a gift recipient that was not all ways the case. That I received and treasured gifts that were given to me not on my registry.
How are you taking that comment to try and paint me as naive and self centered about how I choose gifts?
I seldom, if ever, buy off the registry because I am not a good gift selector. But I appreciate it when others have that ability and take the time to use it on choosing an item for me.