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Re: My Child Is Crying Because...
« Reply #60 on: March 21, 2014, 08:17:21 AM »
Mine have taken to arguing, which devolves into crying, over abstract concepts. For no apparent reason, the 4 year-old will just lean over to the just 3 year-old and say, 'You can't have red.' Not any actual red object, just the colour red.

Of course, having been told he can't have the abstract concept of 'red', it's now the thing he wants most in the world, and lets out an enormous wail insisting that he must now have red. Of course, once he's crying, the one who started it gets upset and joins in.

So I'm left with two wailing kids, trying to work out how to settle an argument where nothing is actually being argued over.



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Re: My Child Is Crying Because...
« Reply #61 on: March 21, 2014, 08:52:18 AM »
Mine have taken to arguing, which devolves into crying, over abstract concepts. For no apparent reason, the 4 year-old will just lean over to the just 3 year-old and say, 'You can't have red.' Not any actual red object, just the colour red.

Of course, having been told he can't have the abstract concept of 'red', it's now the thing he wants most in the world, and lets out an enormous wail insisting that he must now have red. Of course, once he's crying, the one who started it gets upset and joins in.

So I'm left with two wailing kids, trying to work out how to settle an argument where nothing is actually being argued over.

That has just made my day.
 
 
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« Reply #62 on: March 21, 2014, 08:55:01 AM »
Any attempts to wipe his face off are met with screams and thrashing.   He will also say "OW!" Even if he's not being hurt.  Someone at my church asked me once if I was pinching him or something and I told her nope, he just says it when he doesn't like what a person's doing (like carrying him out when he's being disruptive, or taking a crayon away before he tries to draw on the hymnal or prayer books)
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« Reply #63 on: March 21, 2014, 09:04:16 AM »
Any attempts to wipe his face off are met with screams and thrashing.   He will also say "OW!" Even if he's not being hurt.  Someone at my church asked me once if I was pinching him or something and I told her nope, he just says it when he doesn't like what a person's doing (like carrying him out when he's being disruptive, or taking a crayon away before he tries to draw on the hymnal or prayer books)

Ah the reaction-provoking OW. We get that too. And the "STOP MUMMY!!! HURTS!!!" For goodness sake, I was wiping his hands which were absolutely caked in mud and heavens only knows what else.  ::)
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« Reply #64 on: March 24, 2014, 07:37:09 PM »
3yo DD pulled the lettuce off her sandwich today and told me it was a dragon. I told her to eat her lunch. She decided that her dragon (lettuce) was Toothless, from How To Train Your Dragon. Also, the rest of her sandwich was Stormfly. She was happily playing, engaged in conversation between her lettuce and sandwich when I cruelly insisted she eat her lunch. She ate her chips, then started crying because that was Stormfly's lunch (yes, she was 'feeding' chips to her sandwich)
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« Reply #65 on: March 24, 2014, 08:01:28 PM »
Any attempts to wipe his face off are met with screams and thrashing.   He will also say "OW!" Even if he's not being hurt.  Someone at my church asked me once if I was pinching him or something and I told her nope, he just says it when he doesn't like what a person's doing (like carrying him out when he's being disruptive, or taking a crayon away before he tries to draw on the hymnal or prayer books)

Ah the reaction-provoking OW. We get that too. And the "STOP MUMMY!!! HURTS!!!" For goodness sake, I was wiping his hands which were absolutely caked in mud and heavens only knows what else.  ::)

I often find myself trying to remember if the older two were like this but it's been so many years I just can't recall, honestly. Chances are that they probably were.

And twiggy, that made me laugh. I love when their imaginations really take off but sometimes it really does make it hard to get them to do what we need them to do. Littlest Pirate has taken to forming a diamond with his index fingers and thumbs and putting it to his right eye, looking through it like a spyglass. And he will do that at bedtime too when I'm just trying to tuck him in.
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Re: My Child Is Crying Because...
« Reply #66 on: March 25, 2014, 10:56:55 AM »
Tadpole cried becase Daddy took his wallet to work.  :-\
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Re: My Child Is Crying Because...
« Reply #67 on: March 25, 2014, 12:29:20 PM »
My 7-year-old had a full-blown tantrum on Friday, because we wouldn't let her turn her sister's birthday dinner into a birthday party for her stuffed animals.  Yes, her brain is still a little off from her bone marrow transplant, but really.   ::)

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« Reply #68 on: March 26, 2014, 01:25:31 PM »
Because she was "too cozy" and couldn't fall asleep at bedtime.  An hour later it was because she was afraid of the rain (it wasn't raining).  It was fake crying though.  She knows we respond quickly and sympathetically to actual crying, but she's not able to pull off a convincing acting job yet.

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Re: My Child Is Crying Because...
« Reply #69 on: March 27, 2014, 09:22:13 AM »
- I couldn't find The Sooty Show on Catch up TV.
- We ran out of Jaffa Cakes
- He wanted his red coat, not his blue one (this test changes daily.  Just when I think I have him sussed, he changes the rules.)
- He wanted a pee, then he didn't, then he did. (He didn't in the end).
 
This was why it took us nearly 2 hours to leave the house yesterday.
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Re: My Child Is Crying Because...
« Reply #70 on: March 27, 2014, 09:49:01 AM »
The toddler years make me nostalgic for the times I could just put him in his sleeper, strap him into the car seat and go.  I swear it takes me longer to get out of the house now than it did when he was 2 months old.
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« Reply #71 on: March 27, 2014, 09:54:23 AM »
The toddler years make me nostalgic for the times I could just put him in his sleeper, strap him into the car seat and go.  I swear it takes me longer to get out of the house now than it did when he was 2 months old.

Oh yes.  All these people saying "Independence is so great!" really need a kick up their bums. Yes, it is great.  But letting them Do Things For Themselves takes forever and most of us normal folk just don't have 2 hours to spare on a normal day, just so the little precious can fill his own juice cup or put his own coat on or (worst of all IMO) walk BY THEMSELVES ANYWHERE.  They either walk at a snails pace (typical on a morning I am already late) or go hurtling ahead at superspeed, fall over, scrape their hands and then demand to be carried the rest of the way or demand their buggy. GGGGGGGGGGAHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!
 
I feel nostalgic too now.  :D
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Re: My Child Is Crying Because...
« Reply #72 on: April 03, 2014, 06:25:35 PM »
Baby (1.5yo) is crying because the toy he threw down the stairs is now at the bottom of the stairs. He wants it back, but he doesn't want to go downstairs.

DD, 3yo, is crying because her baby is lost and a monster is going to eat her. Said baby is sitting next to DD on the couch.

DS, 5yo, is crying because his glasses don't like him ???
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Re: My Child Is Crying Because...
« Reply #73 on: April 04, 2014, 11:08:42 AM »
My 5 year old had a meltdown last night because the new toothbrush I bought him only has one kind of angry bird on it. 

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Re: My Child Is Crying Because...
« Reply #74 on: April 04, 2014, 11:15:12 AM »
I'm so thankful I never wanted children.  I'd likely be frozen in a constant state of bewilderment.  ;D