BG (semi long): I have a (pretty much ex) friend (Sally) who has always been self centered and entitled, but when she got pregnant early last year after years of IVF she became a monster. Congratulations weren't enough, she expected to be able to practically "hold court" for well wishers, oh but she was sick all the time so if you showed up and she wasn't feeling well you were expected to leave immediately. I chalked it up to excitement and hormones at 1st, and actually visited, and during the conversation made an offhand remark about how maybe my husband & I weren't trying yet. Well of course the next month we realized we had a happy "oops." DH waited 3 months before we shared the happy news publicly, and shortly afterwards I got a message from her. It basically was a long lecture on how DH & I should be happy at how "blessed" we are, and how not everyone has it so easy, with nary an actual congratulations in the note. She also mentioned that she wished we had waited one more day because we knew from her other posts that she planned on announcing the sex of her baby that day. From that day DH & decided that we would begin to slowly distance ourselves from her and her husband, though we sent a baby shower gift in response to the invite. And apparently it was a good thing we did, because she took it upon herself to track down and ask people she felt "owed" her a gift whether or not they had lost the link to the registry. One of the people she asked was a mutual friend (Amy) who had recently been in a life threatening car crash, with both of her children. The details of this crash had also been on Facebook, where Amy mentioned that her children were OK, but that she would need to be therapy for months due to wounds to her legs. Sally sends a private FB message to Amy a week after the crash without even a perfunctory "How are you feeling, are how are the kids doing" Sally's message was basically 2 lines saying "Hey, we realized we didn't get a gift from you, can you see if it got lost in the mail." Amy had never sent a gift and now certainly had no intention to. End BG, because it actually gets worse.
Sally now wants a house, because raising a baby in an apartment apparently doesn't fit with her image for her life. Now I know this is a little gauche, but DH & I are privy to details of their financial situation as of at least 1.5 years ago. DH & I are both financial planners, and Sally & her husband had asked for our assistance in helping them with taxes and plan for home buying. Analyzing their finances they should easily have been able to afford a house then, but they spent money a little frivolously. But whatever, its their life, we gave them some advice. So we know for a FACT that these are 2 solidly middle class individuals, gainfully employed (though she is currently out on a union protected paid maternity leave), have had no unexpected setbacks or tragedies, and in fact in the past year her husband got a promotion and a raise. And now they have the baby their have always wanted. Sound like a pretty good life right?
Well I log into FB last week and see a link to a GoFundMe campaign in my newsfeed call "A Home for Baby." Unable to believe my eyes I click and see her "plea," with distorted details about how terrible her apartment complex is (its not, I've been there several times and its very nice) and how she is "not working" (once again, maternity leave). Apparently raising a baby is expensive (duh) and she and her husband can't afford to do the best for baby day to day and save to buy a house. So next time instead of going to a movie or a bar, we should consider taking that money and helping her family's good cause (That is a paraphrased line from the campaign)
So I block the post because it actually enraged me. But then it popped up again on my feed. And I realize that its because she had ALSO taken to posting the link directly to the FB walls of mutual friends, including Amy and a few others I can only assume she feels "owes" her something. And yes, some of these people she posted to are people who somehow mange to raise their own children in apartments. She at least had to good sense not to post direct to either DH or me. The reaction seems to be one of stunned silence at her nerve, reflected by the fact that almost no one has chosen to make a "donation." She keeps re-posting to her wall, seeming oblivious to how ridiculous her request is.
Edit: I keep forgetting dates LOL, modified to say she got pregnant early last year (2013)