I get really really annoyed when people say "It takes a village" to guilt people into giving money to raise their own child.
I get annoyed because I do believe "it takes a village" but that doesn't mean that village pitches in cash! It takes a village, refers to the people who will be around the child and influence the child and help raise the child. I wouldn't be who I am without the "village" that raised me. And it has nothing to do with money, it was my exposure to them, their influence on me! I don't even have a kid, but I've already started the "village" that will help "raise" my future child. I don't expect one thin dime from them. But I look forward to them teaching and influencing my future offspring in so many ways because they are such fantastic people with a lot to offer!
People who use "it takes a village" to coerce their friends/family/co-workers/perfect strangers to pitch in cash for Jr's summer home, ruin it for the rest of us who understand what it actually means.
Partner and I have come to realization that while we love our home, when we have the above referenced offspring, it's not really going to be suitable. With two of us, the two dogs, and a kid, it'll be very crowded. So, before having the child, we've started putting away money towards buying a new home in the future. Sure if we have a kid prior to then, we can make it work, but we'd like something a little bigger. As the future parents we're planning and saving for this. Our living arrangements are not the responsibility of anyone else. We are grown ups. As grown ups it's up to us to figure how to have a place to live. That's part of being a grown up!