On the subject of "hand me downs" I will say all of the furniture in my apt, aside form my bed, is from my parents, who got a lot from grandma and my one great aunt. But, it was all mutually decided upon when I moved out. Mom said what do you need, i said, well, this and that, and so on, and we went around and she offered what she was willing to give up, and I took it.
She was thrilled when I moved as she had a gorgeous vanity that had been my grandmother's - but I had no room for. I told her i wasn't sure if it would fit in my new apt, but when i got there, and had my other furniture, it did. I chose one, she sold the other, but the funny part is, wasn't until I had that, plus dresser and armoire, did I realisze i had chosen the vanity that matched the other two. They had been my grandparent's when they got married in the 1920's.
And now, she always asks me first, as I do her. if we want it, great, if not, we can dispose of it as we choose.
I have a cousin though, who is always trying to pawn her clothes off onto me and her SIL. she's lost weight, and her original size fits her SIL, and her in-between fits me. The problem is, SIL and I have different taste in clothes than cousin, and cousin also tends to wear things she likes, rather than what is actually flatering on her. and as we have the same body type, i very rarely take anything.
I live out of state, but her SIL is local, so she has a very bad habit of
dumping bringing bags of clothing to SIL, and just leaving them, and when SIL doens't want any of it, she's now stuck with getting rid of it! And cousin gets irked sometimes when we DON'T take any of her stuff. Sorry, but i am a tad fluffy, and tapered, low rise ankle jeans in colored denim only make my posterior look like a giant piece of fruit.
I cleaned out my closet recently, but I emailed SIL and said i have this and that, are you interested? she said thanks, but no, so off to Goodwill it went.