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kherbert05

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Re: Stop helping me! (Share your stories)
« Reply #405 on: April 03, 2014, 04:55:58 PM »

5. I nearly stepped on this (Don't click if you don't like reptiles with fangs. Family is debating if it is a cottonmouth or rattler yes. This was taken after I jumped back about 5 feet and I used the zoom) 30 min ago at the farm.


Did you ever get it definitively ID'd?
I'm pretty sure it was a cotton Mouth. There was no rattle on the tail and the coloring is wrong for a copperhead. I've had poisonous snakes in the yard before as a kid. This was the closest I've ever come to being struck. If the hogs hadn't torn up the ground I wouldn't have been looking down. I saw the flash of white and fangs from the mouth. I jumped down hill to my left - which meant I had high grass and trees behind me and to both sides and the snake in front. I was able to pull  a stick from the tree (damaged from the drought) and use it to clear the grass around me.
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« Reply #406 on: April 03, 2014, 06:08:26 PM »
Geez!  MIL should have at least offered to pay for replacement clothes.   >:(

Edited to add:  whoops, I forgot that they were handmade and therefore irreplaceable.  I'm so sorry!   :(

Well, even though they were actually not replaceable, MIL still should have offered something.   No amount of money could have replaced the clothes but the offer should have been made-the MIL should have tried her best to fix her mistake.

Exactly! And once she'd gotten the bill for the yarn & time involved, she would know better than to try that again!

Custom made wool suits, dry clean only, that the dry cleaner ruined ONE piece of. 

They belonged to the seamstress.  Who was told that "homemade stuff" had no value and they weren't going to pay ANYTHING.  It was the only dry cleaner in the area...I forget if it was a rural area or if the seamstress did not drive & it was a pain in the asterisk to take much on public transit....

Her solution was to order a lot of "custom made" tags with a "designer name" on them.  It happened to be her maiden name...but she didn't tell the dry cleaner that.  The next time something got ruined (not frequent, but it was NOT stuff she could replace due to no more fabric and ruined the suit to have no jacket) - she pulled out the invoices that she used when sewing for hire (same "designer's name") and pointed to the price & the tag.  The dry cleaner paid, grumbling, but paid - and apparently started paying more attention to her "stuff" because it was expensive custom made stuff instead of cheap home made stuff.  Same clothes - just with a "custom made by XXXX" tag in it instead of tagless.

After reading that story about twenty years-four ago, I started sewing size tags & "made in USA" tags in clothes made for my niece & nephew - their mother didn't recognize the product line tag that I had made, but she no longer trashed things that were "home made".  After the divorce, she kept the "good stuff" at her house until the kids had outgrown it, but at least I could hope that they got to wear it when they were staying with her....
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« Reply #407 on: April 03, 2014, 06:16:12 PM »
^Those tags sound like something I should be doing with my costumes and hand made clothing. Seriously, some of that stuff would be impossible to replace due to the unique fabrics used. As for the claim that my hand made things had "no value", my response would be "We'll see what a lawyer has to say about that!"

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« Reply #408 on: April 03, 2014, 07:57:10 PM »
I have seen tags in craft stores that sell labels (Hobby Lobby and JoAnne's) for garments and I think that's a great idea, really, with the invoices, too!
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« Reply #409 on: April 04, 2014, 09:19:34 AM »
Mail order for names YOU have chosen - they screen print them or embroider/weave the letters in.  Costs a bit more - but - seriously, If you have custom made stuff that you want to be taken seriously by a dry cleaner...or my ex-SIL...it might be worth the cost to order two to five dozen...

I have also embroidered a "brand name" in the inside of the waistband - but it was clearly NOT a store bought tag - it was just going to be impossible to cut the tag off (individually ripping out every letter stitch by stitch takes TIME) - and the care instructions couldn't be "lost".

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My best guess is that she was invoicing her clients, she just started invoicing herself, too.  It might also have been that her "business" wrote them off as "sample garments" or "design prototypes" - but not until after they had a dollar value assigned to them that a dry cleaner, coat check, or airline could be shown in the event that things were damaged or lost (stolen)...

Someone else was a knitter and an entire suitcase of sample garments went missing on her way to a photo op (publisher of the book) and knitting seminar where she was going to be teaching the new garments....she writes the instructions up from the finished garment (not as she knits). 

SOME of them showed up later in a Goodwill or similar charity thrift store...but not all of them.  I just wish I could remember where I saw the story - some of the sweaters (jumpers) were still missing at the time that I read the story.
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« Reply #410 on: April 07, 2014, 02:41:14 PM »
Standing in the middle of the kitchen looking at the groceries I bought while I'm trying to put said groceries away isn't helping.  At all.

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« Reply #411 on: April 07, 2014, 03:07:32 PM »
Or pulling out the food you want to eat now and not putting anything else away while I am doing it.
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« Reply #412 on: April 09, 2014, 03:17:03 PM »
I've heard of teenagers pulling out so much food to eat that Mom didn't spend nearly as much time putting food away as she'd expected.  Only to find that they had eaten all the stuff she'd brought home for a party and Mom had to go back to the store before her bridge (card game) party started - all the "snacks" were gone. 

She said it was much cheaper to bring it all in and put it away herself...because that way the "party" food got put into the "do not open at risk of serious bodily harm if Mom finds THIS stuff missing before the party" shelves instead of the "open season - snacks for hungry family members" shelves.  I think that she mentioned being Catholic and having eight children - so there was usually more than one shopping trip a week to the grocery store.  She did try to avoid having to make a trip every DAY, though.
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« Reply #413 on: April 09, 2014, 10:30:38 PM »
Housemate tries to help me in the kitchen.  Now, the kitchen is my domain.  I cook, and I really hate having an 'overseer' in the kitchen.

When I'm putting groceries away, she's always standing right in front of the cupboard I need.

When I'm dishing up dinner, she stands right where I need to be.  Sigh...

I've told her, no help needed, sit down, blah blah, which works for a while but not long.

One night last month I had her and three dogs 'helping' me in the kitchen.  Now, I have a biiiiiig kitchen.  Lots of space.  But not when three furry munchkins and one large adult human are all milling around - literally, in the case of the dogs, right under my feet.  After I tripped on one dog a fourth time and bumped into Housemate a third time I had a tanty...   :-[   A foot stomping, spoon weilding tanty.  They all got chased out.  I'm not proud of it.  But I have the kitchen mostly to myself these days.

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« Reply #414 on: April 09, 2014, 11:20:35 PM »
I've heard of teenagers pulling out so much food to eat that Mom didn't spend nearly as much time putting food away as she'd expected.  Only to find that they had eaten all the stuff she'd brought home for a party and Mom had to go back to the store before her bridge (card game) party started - all the "snacks" were gone. 

She said it was much cheaper to bring it all in and put it away herself...because that way the "party" food got put into the "do not open at risk of serious bodily harm if Mom finds THIS stuff missing before the party" shelves instead of the "open season - snacks for hungry family members" shelves.  I think that she mentioned being Catholic and having eight children - so there was usually more than one shopping trip a week to the grocery store.  She did try to avoid having to make a trip every DAY, though.

I've only got 4, but they're starting to get voracious appetites and I can't seem to keep us in bananas, oranges, milk, and yogurt.  I feel like I'm going to the store every few days for those!  And making bread constantly, as we use a loaf a day.  I can only imagine what the teenage years will be like... and mine are all girls!  I'm developing all new sympathy for my grandmother, who had 8 kids, 5 of whom were boys.  They must have gone through insane amounts of food.
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« Reply #415 on: April 10, 2014, 02:00:19 AM »
Housemate tries to help me in the kitchen.  Now, the kitchen is my domain.  I cook, and I really hate having an 'overseer' in the kitchen.

When I'm putting groceries away, she's always standing right in front of the cupboard I need.

When I'm dishing up dinner, she stands right where I need to be.  Sigh...

I've told her, no help needed, sit down, blah blah, which works for a while but not long.

One night last month I had her and three dogs 'helping' me in the kitchen.  Now, I have a biiiiiig kitchen.  Lots of space.  But not when three furry munchkins and one large adult human are all milling around - literally, in the case of the dogs, right under my feet.  After I tripped on one dog a fourth time and bumped into Housemate a third time I had a tanty...   :-[   A foot stomping, spoon weilding tanty.  They all got chased out.  I'm not proud of it.  But I have the kitchen mostly to myself these days.

You have my mother as your housemate?

She broke her hip nine weeks ago, and is still hobbling around using a frame walker. She can't move quickly. And yet, she insisted the other night on empyting the dish washer of clean plates etc *just* as I was trying to dish up supper. So I'm dodging around her with pans of boiling water and potatoes and carrots, trying desperately to keep my temper (she's down about not being able to help as much as usual) and internally wishing I could do your foot stomping spoon wielding tanty. Infuriating!
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« Reply #416 on: April 10, 2014, 05:43:48 AM »
I've heard of teenagers pulling out so much food to eat that Mom didn't spend nearly as much time putting food away as she'd expected.  Only to find that they had eaten all the stuff she'd brought home for a party and Mom had to go back to the store before her bridge (card game) party started - all the "snacks" were gone. 

She said it was much cheaper to bring it all in and put it away herself...because that way the "party" food got put into the "do not open at risk of serious bodily harm if Mom finds THIS stuff missing before the party" shelves instead of the "open season - snacks for hungry family members" shelves.  I think that she mentioned being Catholic and having eight children - so there was usually more than one shopping trip a week to the grocery store.  She did try to avoid having to make a trip every DAY, though.

I've only got 4, but they're starting to get voracious appetites and I can't seem to keep us in bananas, oranges, milk, and yogurt.  I feel like I'm going to the store every few days for those!  And making bread constantly, as we use a loaf a day.  I can only imagine what the teenage years will be like... and mine are all girls!  I'm developing all new sympathy for my grandmother, who had 8 kids, 5 of whom were boys.  They must have gone through insane amounts of food.

Same here. I have 3 boys, one who has a hollow leg ALL the time, it seems and the other it comes and goes.  Snacks don't last very long in this house, I'm afraid and it's not just them either. DH wanted to get these chocolate coated goji berries at the store, and we got two packs of them.  I went to go look for them Sunday, I think it was, and they were gone.  DH had eaten them ALL and said "I'm sorry! But you stash sweets too!" YEAH, cause I know if I don't they'll disappear before I get any!
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« Reply #417 on: April 10, 2014, 07:00:47 AM »
I'm an admin assistant at a smallish building contractor office.

One of my co-workers has recently decided to be "helpful" and group all the delivery notes/invoices etc. by job number. NOT HELPFUL. We process them in alphabetical order by company, which he knows, but he thinks this is a more "efficient" way to do it. It's really not. It just makes more work for me and my counterpart, resorting everything.

But he is a 40-something man, and we are 20-something girls, so obviously he's right and we're wrong. *facepalm*

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« Reply #418 on: April 10, 2014, 10:03:25 AM »
I'm an admin assistant at a smallish building contractor office.

One of my co-workers has recently decided to be "helpful" and group all the delivery notes/invoices etc. by job number. NOT HELPFUL. We process them in alphabetical order by company, which he knows, but he thinks this is a more "efficient" way to do it. It's really not. It just makes more work for me and my counterpart, resorting everything.

But he is a 40-something man, and we are 20-something girls, so obviously he's right and we're wrong. *facepalm*
???  So it's "more efficient" to have to thumb through them AFTER he's helpfully grouped them by number and resort them into alphabetical order? What does your supervisor say about him wasting your time AND his?
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« Reply #419 on: April 10, 2014, 11:40:37 AM »
I'm an admin assistant at a smallish building contractor office.

One of my co-workers has recently decided to be "helpful" and group all the delivery notes/invoices etc. by job number. NOT HELPFUL. We process them in alphabetical order by company, which he knows, but he thinks this is a more "efficient" way to do it. It's really not. It just makes more work for me and my counterpart, resorting everything.

But he is a 40-something man, and we are 20-something girls, so obviously he's right and we're wrong. *facepalm*
???  So it's "more efficient" to have to thumb through them AFTER he's helpfully grouped them by number and resort them into alphabetical order? What does your supervisor say about him wasting your time AND his?

Co-Worker thinks it would be more efficient for us to process them in job number order as well. (It wouldn't.) The boss has reminded him several times that it's not helpful, and has started giving the documents back to Co-Worker to re-sort if he does it. As it's only a recent habit (the last 2 months or so) we're hoping he'll get it into his head that he's wasting his own time and stop.