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alkira6

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« Reply #450 on: April 15, 2014, 11:17:59 AM »
And I thought the time my DH used Pledge on the hardwood floors was bad!!!  ;D  Granted, they looked showroom new, but holy cow they were slippery!!!

I didn't know my husband had another brother!  What is it with these guys?

Add me as someone else who had awesomely shiny floors and a sore bottom.   ;D

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« Reply #451 on: April 15, 2014, 11:40:20 AM »
I hear you all about " free" furniture. DH will not say no to his parents about anything. They were downsizing their home when we were moving into our home and "kindly" gave us a box of rusted tools that were unusable ( incl a saw with no handle) and an entire box of metal clothes hangers.  They also felt DH's kitchen table was too small for our dining room and swapped with theirs on moving day. Their set fell apart within months due to age, wear and tear and quality. We did not have a table until after our wedding thanks to generous gifts.  We also got a couch from mil's late uncle with the bonus gift of a mice infestation. The final straw came when they gave our soon to be born baby a dresser that could be used as a change table. It was horrible, been through three kids (including our niece who got brand new furniture from them to replace it) and was broken. The drawer rails were broken, the drawer fronts were cracked and the niece covered it with stickers. It took my handy parents 20 hours of gluing, replacing and painting to make it usable. It went to the dump when we moved. My MIL thinks she is doing us a second favour when we need to replace the garbage they give us as now we can pick what we want.....which we could have done in the first place and saved headaches.  DH now refuses their offers after the last two incidents.

Seriously, they're not helping.  When we bought our house one of DH's relatives had moved to a bigger place and offered us a few things.  They were perfect for our house and we really appreciated it.  Enter the rest of the furniture from other ILs.  It took me years to get the stuff out of my house.  I would have rather had no furniture at all as some of it was so old and saggy that no one sat there anyway.  We got a cracked patio set so someone could go off and buy a new one.  I finally told DH we were not a repository for junk and it stopped.  Some people had their heart in the right place and some people got that gleam in their eye that told me they were sagging me with furniture so they could buy new stuff with a clear conscience and a pat on the back.

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« Reply #452 on: April 15, 2014, 12:11:00 PM »
I agree TootsNYC but at the time we could not afford to nor had the space.  My spine has been polished since and the standard answer is now "no thank you, we have no use for that".  They can easily afford the fee to take things to the dump.

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« Reply #453 on: April 15, 2014, 12:19:55 PM »
A kinder furniture-gifting story here.  When DS1 and his GF found an apartment, my mother offered them a couch.  Great shape, plus it was a sleeper, they were happy to accept.  Right before move-in, she became very ill and was hospitalized in a coma.  We put a lot of plans on hold, changed others, and DS1 stayed in the area while she was in danger.  We did start taking some things down to the apartment, but nothing from her house.  After my mother regained consciousness, we were all in her hospital room, she beams up at DS1 and asks, "How do you like the couch?"  His sheepish grin and "Weeelllll," led to us having to explain that it would have been very poor form to be seen hauling things out of her house in a moving van just after the ambulance had taken her away.

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« Reply #454 on: April 15, 2014, 12:30:30 PM »
We inherited a sofa and loveseat from DH's grandmother when she could no longer live in her house and they had to sell it.  It must have been bought in the 70's cause it just had that kind of look to it.  They needed to do something with it to get it out of the house and offered it to us.  We took it and it made the move with us but I truly was not a huge fan of it. It wasn't that I found it ugly, it just wasn't really my style. I'm not a big one for patterns on the upholstry cause it makes it harder to coordinate with room decor. I like simpler, neutral styles.  Namely off-whites and earthy colors which would coordinate with nautical decor.

Anyway, the cats tore these up pretty badly and we eventually replaced it and no one was really terribly upset to see them go, thankfully. 

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« Reply #455 on: April 15, 2014, 12:33:56 PM »
GratefulMaria - Glad your mom got better, but that was funny story. :)

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« Reply #456 on: April 15, 2014, 12:50:55 PM »
I agree TootsNYC but at the time we could not afford to nor had the space.

Well, then, she was helping you, even if you didn't love the way she was doing so.


(I don't get how you wouldn't have had the space to throw out their crappy furniture.)

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« Reply #457 on: April 15, 2014, 01:08:27 PM »
I agree TootsNYC but at the time we could not afford to nor had the space.

Well, then, she was helping you, even if you didn't love the way she was doing so.


(I don't get how you wouldn't have had the space to throw out their crappy furniture.)

We only have large item trash pickup once a year, so if we had an apartment and a small garage, we wouldn't have space to store crappy furniture awaiting disposal.

alkira6

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« Reply #458 on: April 15, 2014, 01:32:02 PM »
Right before we moved into our current house we put just about everything on Freecycle.  The last day was open call on everything under the carport - just come and get it.  All of that stuff was middling to bad condition hand me downs that should have been thrown away.  Most of it was picked up by "junk" people who will take anything.  The last little bits were taken to the dump with the moving truck. Well worth the dump fee.

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« Reply #459 on: April 15, 2014, 02:36:36 PM »
And I thought the time my DH used Pledge on the hardwood floors was bad!!!  ;D  Granted, they looked showroom new, but holy cow they were slippery!!!

I didn't know my husband had another brother!  What is it with these guys?

Oh my goodness I'm married to another brother! I have that same argument with my DH several times a year over his burning desire to Pledge the wood floors. I generally have to resort to telling him that I am not up to having $XXXXX vet bills when one of our crazy dogs charges around the house and either injures themselves by slipping or crashing into something.....perhaps the giant TV he's so fond of!  >:D

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« Reply #460 on: April 15, 2014, 02:43:09 PM »
Even if the toilet has been cleaned, getting water from there is still rather strange.

There's a joke about this (or maybe it's a story my MIL told me, I forget).  There was a school that was having problems with the girls putting on lipstick and then kissing the bathroom mirror, leaving lipstick prints all over the mirror in the girls' bathroom.  It looked awful and was causing the custodian a lot of extra work.  So finally, the principal got a bunch of the likely culprits to come to the bathroom for a demonstration.  She then asked the custodian to demonstrate how much extra work it was for him to clean the lipstick prints off the mirror.  So he took his mop, dipped it in a toilet, then washed the mirror with it.  The lipstick smears stopped that day.  :)
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« Reply #461 on: April 15, 2014, 02:56:21 PM »
And I thought the time my DH used Pledge on the hardwood floors was bad!!!  ;D  Granted, they looked showroom new, but holy cow they were slippery!!!

I didn't know my husband had another brother!  What is it with these guys?

Add me as someone else who had awesomely shiny floors and a sore bottom.   ;D

My nephew cleaned the bathroom with straight ammonia.  As best I can figure, he thought that the stronger the solution, the better it would clean.  And you can't get any stronger than straight from the bottle.  Darn near asphyxiated himself.   ::)

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« Reply #462 on: April 15, 2014, 03:01:09 PM »
And I thought the time my DH used Pledge on the hardwood floors was bad!!!  ;D  Granted, they looked showroom new, but holy cow they were slippery!!!

I didn't know my husband had another brother!  What is it with these guys?

Add me as someone else who had awesomely shiny floors and a sore bottom.   ;D

My nephew cleaned the bathroom with straight ammonia.  As best I can figure, he thought that the stronger the solution, the better it would clean.  And you can't get any stronger than straight from the bottle.  Darn near asphyxiated himself.   ::)

At least he didn't mix it with bleach...

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« Reply #463 on: April 15, 2014, 04:01:21 PM »
Even if the toilet has been cleaned, getting water from there is still rather strange.

There's a joke about this (or maybe it's a story my MIL told me, I forget).  There was a school that was having problems with the girls putting on lipstick and then kissing the bathroom mirror, leaving lipstick prints all over the mirror in the girls' bathroom.  It looked awful and was causing the custodian a lot of extra work.  So finally, the principal got a bunch of the likely culprits to come to the bathroom for a demonstration.  She then asked the custodian to demonstrate how much extra work it was for him to clean the lipstick prints off the mirror.  So he took his mop, dipped it in a toilet, then washed the mirror with it.  The lipstick smears stopped that day.  :)

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« Reply #464 on: April 15, 2014, 04:46:49 PM »
And I thought the time my DH used Pledge on the hardwood floors was bad!!!  ;D  Granted, they looked showroom new, but holy cow they were slippery!!!

I didn't know my husband had another brother!  What is it with these guys?

Oh my goodness I'm married to another brother! I have that same argument with my DH several times a year over his burning desire to Pledge the wood floors. I generally have to resort to telling him that I am not up to having $XXXXX vet bills when one of our crazy dogs charges around the house and either injures themselves by slipping or crashing into something.....perhaps the giant TV he's so fond of!  >:D

My bestie did this once, back when she and her husband lived in their previous home.    All was well, and she was pretty proud of her efforts, till her husband got home and tried to walk in socks.    ;D  Live and learn.
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