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Re: Roommate Hell.....
« Reply #120 on: April 10, 2014, 09:32:42 PM »
Now, my daughter's story.
My daughter was upset when the other girls told her the 6 of them wanted to live together sophomore year and she would have to find another group to live with.  They did her a favor, as it turns out.  She had a better number in the housing lottery than they did, got a nicer apartment, and wound up living with a girl who is now one of her closest friends.

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« Reply #121 on: April 10, 2014, 10:43:38 PM »
Yes, and she knows it.

Can't believe that I forgot the part about her clothes.

My daughter is a fashionista. Loves clothes. Loves to shop for clothes.  And has a talent for knowing how to combine garments and accessories to create a "look".  Also very picky about how she launders the clothes.  And won't lend them out to anyone except her sister.

When she was in high school she got a job at a clothing store in the mall.  This store has an interesting ploy -- they actively recruit their customers to apply for work at the store, and one of the requirements of employment is that sales help must wear the product line while on duty.  Her entire paycheck wound up back at the store.   Consequently her freshman wardrobe contained a significant number of items from this store. 

None of her apartment mates shopped in that store.


So you can imagine her surprise when she comes home and sees one of the apartment mates in what is apparently my daughter's shirt.  She checks her closet and the shirt is missing.

So she says to the girl, "That's my shirt."

And the disingenuous reply?  "it is?  I didn't know.  I thought my sister left it here when she visited last week."

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« Reply #122 on: April 11, 2014, 08:58:06 AM »
When my sister went to college she became friends with someone else whose roommate went off the deep end and left after only 6 weeks. There were a bunch of things she did but the only one i remember is that one day she went into the friend's underwear drawer and cut the crotches out of all her panties.

I don't think she paid for new ones but she did leave very shortly afterwards.

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« Reply #123 on: April 14, 2014, 09:22:11 PM »
The apartment had a single hookup for cable tv.  My daughter brought the tv, and they all shared it.  One day my daughter came home to find that someone's boyfriend had hooked up his laptop to the tv so that he could stream some show he wanted to watch.
Everything else is pretty bad, but I don't understand what's wrong with this.

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« Reply #124 on: April 14, 2014, 09:35:39 PM »
The apartment had a single hookup for cable tv.  My daughter brought the tv, and they all shared it.  One day my daughter came home to find that someone's boyfriend had hooked up his laptop to the tv so that he could stream some show he wanted to watch.
Everything else is pretty bad, but I don't understand what's wrong with this.

One can easily screw up a TV pretty badly if it's unscrewed wrong.  Mom and I just broke a TV due to a cable being screwed in wrong and now you can't screw any sort of cable into it at all.  Five bucks says the roommate's boyfriend wouldn't have offered to pay for said TV if it broke.



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Re: Roommate Hell.....
« Reply #125 on: April 14, 2014, 09:43:48 PM »
For me, if you don't live here, you don't mess with the back of the TV, or the thermostat, or where the furniture is(the big stuff, not dining room chairs and stuff), etc.
« Last Edit: April 15, 2014, 09:16:03 AM by Black Delphinium »
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« Reply #126 on: April 15, 2014, 07:45:23 AM »
The apartment had a single hookup for cable tv.  My daughter brought the tv, and they all shared it.  One day my daughter came home to find that someone's boyfriend had hooked up his laptop to the tv so that he could stream some show he wanted to watch.
Everything else is pretty bad, but I don't understand what's wrong with this.

One can easily screw up a TV pretty badly if it's unscrewed wrong.  Mom and I just broke a TV due to a cable being screwed in wrong and now you can't screw any sort of cable into it at all.  Five bucks says the roommate's boyfriend wouldn't have offered to pay for said TV if it broke.

Exactly.  She knew she was sharing the tv with the roommates,.  If they were watching something she didn't want to watch, that's part of the experience.  But messing with the electronics, not so much. Fortunately nothing happened.

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« Reply #127 on: April 15, 2014, 08:02:36 AM »
I've seen too many people trip on cables that were strung across open space for "temporary" use - with horrible potential to damage the equipment and the person - depending on how & where they landed.

BAD idea - ranging all the way up to REALLY BAD idea if the connecting cable was a trip hazard.
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« Reply #128 on: August 27, 2015, 04:46:47 PM »
I know this is quite an old thread, but I stumbled across it and couldn't resist adding my own story.

My sophomore year of college, I lived in a dorm that was set up in suites - two rooms sharing a bathroom. I was in a suite of doubles: two girls in each room, all sharing a bathroom. About a week into the semester, one of the girls in the other room, a law student from a distant state, dropped out due to homesickness. Then, in December, my roommate told me that she wouldn't be coming back to the dorms after Christmas, but would be moving off campus. Okay, great - that left me with my own room, and almost my own bathroom. Well - except for the remaining suitemate's out of town boyfriend, who came and stayed almost every weekend. Note that this was a Catholic university, and the rules were no overnight opposite sex visitors.

Well, things are going okay - I didn't love having to share my bathroom with a guy I didn't know, but I lived with it. Until one day, several months later, when I came home to find... The latch on the inside of the bathroom door had been removed. I immediately went to the RA.

It turns out that, all year long, I'd been forgetting to unlatch the door on her side, and doing it often enough that the RA had gotten tired of having to come in and unlock it for her. So she told my suitemate to "deal with it."

NO ONE had said one word to me about this. My suitemate had not thought it necessary to actually speak to me about the problem, and neither had the RA!  :o I was furious, but also not very good at being assertive (politely or otherwise ;)). I had words with suitemate, who basically just said they'd be careful to always knock before entering the bathroom. Well, as you can guess, it wasn't long before her boyfriend walked in on me while I was on the toilet...

Even then, I didn't do anything about it. Now, I'd have a different response. 20 years later, it still makes me mad to think about how I didn't stand up for myself.

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« Reply #129 on: August 28, 2015, 08:38:27 AM »
I know this is quite an old thread, but I stumbled across it and couldn't resist adding my own story.

My sophomore year of college, I lived in a dorm that was set up in suites - two rooms sharing a bathroom. I was in a suite of doubles: two girls in each room, all sharing a bathroom. About a week into the semester, one of the girls in the other room, a law student from a distant state, dropped out due to homesickness. Then, in December, my roommate told me that she wouldn't be coming back to the dorms after Christmas, but would be moving off campus. Okay, great - that left me with my own room, and almost my own bathroom. Well - except for the remaining suitemate's out of town boyfriend, who came and stayed almost every weekend. Note that this was a Catholic university, and the rules were no overnight opposite sex visitors.

Well, things are going okay - I didn't love having to share my bathroom with a guy I didn't know, but I lived with it. Until one day, several months later, when I came home to find... The latch on the inside of the bathroom door had been removed. I immediately went to the RA.

It turns out that, all year long, I'd been forgetting to unlatch the door on her side, and doing it often enough that the RA had gotten tired of having to come in and unlock it for her. So she told my suitemate to "deal with it."

NO ONE had said one word to me about this. My suitemate had not thought it necessary to actually speak to me about the problem, and neither had the RA!  :o I was furious, but also not very good at being assertive (politely or otherwise ;)). I had words with suitemate, who basically just said they'd be careful to always knock before entering the bathroom. Well, as you can guess, it wasn't long before her boyfriend walked in on me while I was on the toilet...

Even then, I didn't do anything about it. Now, I'd have a different response. 20 years later, it still makes me mad to think about how I didn't stand up for myself.

I don't understand why they don't just put keyed locks on the bathrooms in dorms.  That way you could lock the door and get that security from accidental walkins, and if you forgot, your roomate could still get in.

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Re: Roommate Hell.....
« Reply #130 on: August 28, 2015, 09:13:30 AM »
On the shared bathroom situation I don't know why the poster doesn't feel responsible for the situation.  Can you imagine every time you went to the washroom it being locked?  I mean how didn't the poster get that her door was unlocked but forget to unlock the other, it is really is rude to make the mistake over and over again.  Sure maybe the roommate should have spoken with her and not the RA but to be honest maybe they felt she wouldn't comply because it happened so often that obviously she didn't care.  Personally, I would have retaliated and locked the poster out a few times to see how she liked it and maybe it would help her not "forget".  I am impressed the roommate handled it on her own by getting the RA, I probably would have blown up as you just cannot "forget" in shared living quarters.  I don't see what the poster has to be "livid" about as the situation was caused by her actions alone, if she didn't forget all the time no one would have had to resort to removing the lock.

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« Reply #131 on: August 28, 2015, 10:10:07 AM »
On the shared bathroom situation I don't know why the poster doesn't feel responsible for the situation.  Can you imagine every time you went to the washroom it being locked?  I mean how didn't the poster get that her door was unlocked but forget to unlock the other, it is really is rude to make the mistake over and over again.  Sure maybe the roommate should have spoken with her and not the RA but to be honest maybe they felt she wouldn't comply because it happened so often that obviously she didn't care.  Personally, I would have retaliated and locked the poster out a few times to see how she liked it and maybe it would help her not "forget".  I am impressed the roommate handled it on her own by getting the RA, I probably would have blown up as you just cannot "forget" in shared living quarters.  I don't see what the poster has to be "livid" about as the situation was caused by her actions alone, if she didn't forget all the time no one would have had to resort to removing the lock.

Yeah, in university I lived in a dorm with this kind of bathroom set up. I would have been LIVID if my roomie consistently locked me out of my own bathroom. This is a BIG deal, and for the OP to be crying victim because the RA had to be involved is.... well, it mimics some of the ongoing themes in this thread.

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« Reply #132 on: August 28, 2015, 10:34:25 AM »
On the shared bathroom situation I don't know why the poster doesn't feel responsible for the situation.  Can you imagine every time you went to the washroom it being locked?  I mean how didn't the poster get that her door was unlocked but forget to unlock the other, it is really is rude to make the mistake over and over again.  Sure maybe the roommate should have spoken with her and not the RA but to be honest maybe they felt she wouldn't comply because it happened so often that obviously she didn't care.  Personally, I would have retaliated and locked the poster out a few times to see how she liked it and maybe it would help her not "forget".  I am impressed the roommate handled it on her own by getting the RA, I probably would have blown up as you just cannot "forget" in shared living quarters.  I don't see what the poster has to be "livid" about as the situation was caused by her actions alone, if she didn't forget all the time no one would have had to resort to removing the lock.

Yeah, in university I lived in a dorm with this kind of bathroom set up. I would have been LIVID if my roomie consistently locked me out of my own bathroom. This is a BIG deal, and for the OP to be crying victim because the RA had to be involved is.... well, it mimics some of the ongoing themes in this thread.

For real.  This went on for several MONTHS.  Wow.

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« Reply #133 on: August 28, 2015, 11:07:19 AM »
I don't get why the RA didn't say something, even if the suitemate felt she couldn't.

That was wrong, I think, for the RA to just go along unlocking the bathroom door without saying anything to the OP, and then to remove the lock completely.


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« Reply #134 on: August 28, 2015, 11:11:40 AM »
I can understand the roommate not wanting to directly confront the OP but bad on the RA. A meeting should have been set up so the RA could mediate this or see if moving one of them to a new suite was in order, not just allow a student to vandalize university property.

In college I was in a similar, but more crowded situation, 6 girls, 3 bedrooms, a sitting area, 1 bathroom suite. The bathroom, oddly enough, was not much of a problem since there was also a public bathroom on the floor. One roommate went to the RA to complain that I was on the shared phone all the time and not letting others use it. This was way before everyone had cell phones. The RA called an apartment meeting and heard both of our stories. The truth was, roommate was the one who was calling her out of state boyfriend every night and staying on the phone for hours. She complained because I got a phone call one night just as she was about it use it and I refused to tell the person I couldn't talk and hand over the phone. The other roommates really didn't care so much either way because they didn't make or receive many calls and so they'd never really had a conflict. However, two of them took my side that she couldn't just kick anyone off the phone because she wanted to use it, and two took her side that I should have given way, because it was her boyfriend ::) and they had a routine. But they all verified that she was on the phone every night for hours. The sort-of resolution was that everybody needed to limit their calls to an hour or less even if nobody was waiting to use it, and no more than 20 minutes if someone was waiting to use it. This really only impacted her so she was mad. When the semester was over, she moved off campus.
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