My greatest regret was not hiring a caterer. We had a small (100) people wedding and a luncheon buffet following in the church hall. I ordered pans of food from a "all-in-one" wedding company and thought I was so smart in not going with a caterer. I don't know what I was thinking. I bought napkins, plates and such at a party store and set up the entire room myself. I knew it looked bad
When I arrived at the church the next day, the reception room was beautiful, with real plates and silver, and the buffet so much better set up than I had it. Teenagers from the church did the setting out and restocking, and much of the cleanup. No one would tell me what happened but later I found out that my brother in law, who is a restaurant manager, had frantically organized the "church ladies", who recruited trustworthy teens. The ladies came in that night before and organized the whole thing. I wish I'd taken the same money for the videographer (which we've only watched twice), and put it towards the catering.
We slipped a generous amount to the pastor to either use for ministry or for a pet project of the ladies' auxiliary.