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More "I don't want to hear this" with MIL
« on: May 20, 2014, 10:26:54 AM »
<bg>The Sweetie's father died a few months ago. MIL has lost what few conversational brakes she ever had; I've always found her difficult to deal with and it's gotten worse. The Sweetie has been talking to her once a week, which pretty much qualifies her for sainthood.

Also bg: MIL has been planning a trip to visit one of her sons and a batch of grandkids.</bg>

In a recent call, The Sweetie found herself hostage on the phone because MIL was trying to find her keys, with a monologue on the order of "They're not in my purse! Maybe I left them on the table? *shuffle papers* No - they're not there! This is awful!"

The Sweetie finally said, "Mom, I love you, and I don't want to be on the phone listening to you look for your keys. Tell me about your trip - are you looking forward to it?"

MIL, to her credit, laughed at being caught out, and went on to the new topic.

« Last Edit: May 20, 2014, 11:50:00 AM by Ms_Cellany »
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Re: More "I don't want to hear this" with MIL
« Reply #1 on: May 20, 2014, 03:32:34 PM »
Sympathies to you and Sweetie. It sounds difficult or worse but I like the way she handled it. Tell her "nicely done" from me.


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Re: More "I don't want to hear this" with MIL
« Reply #2 on: May 20, 2014, 04:35:51 PM »
I think a lot of lonely people can end up thinking of "being on the phone" as sort of like "hanging out together." So if you're hanging out w/ someone, and they hunt for the phone, you just are with them while they go off on that tangent.