Author Topic: Should you have to specifically invite your date to order food?  (Read 7513 times)

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Re: Should you have to specifically invite your date to order food?
« Reply #45 on: August 25, 2014, 04:34:38 PM »
There's something missing in this story. I believe that servers are trained to ensure that they have tended to each person's drink/meal interests. The restaurant wants to ensure that everyone is asked so that they can make the maximum amount of money. The LW must have refused anything when the server asked, because her date didn't offer?!? If I was the date, I would be thinking that she was the strange bird!!!

I also can't imagine attending a dinner date and my date refusing food and there be no discussion about that. I would be concerned that my date didn't approve of the restaurant choice. Maybe he/she has diet restrictions that the restaurant cannot attend to??? Maybe I misunderstood the agreed upon arrangements??? Maybe my date has changed his/her mind about me and is trying to end the date early??? Either way, I would be trying to find a polite way to say, "You didn't want dinner?"

In every first date dining experiences that I have had, the assumption has always been that everyone is eating. The food talk is often part of the ice breaker portion. The only situation when I might assume to not order food might be if the date was set-up to be drinks. "Would you care to get a drink with me at Hometown Pub?" If my date happened to order food in that situation, I would likely match that.

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That's not always the case. Some servers might assume if they gave a menu to one person at the table, and that person ordered, the other person would have been consulted.
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Re: Should you have to specifically invite your date to order food?
« Reply #46 on: August 26, 2014, 11:19:36 AM »

That's not always the case. Some servers might assume if they gave a menu to one person at the table, and that person ordered, the other person would have been consulted.

What waiter only gives a menu to one person at the table?

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Re: Should you have to specifically invite your date to order food?
« Reply #47 on: August 26, 2014, 02:07:15 PM »

That's not always the case. Some servers might assume if they gave a menu to one person at the table, and that person ordered, the other person would have been consulted.

What waiter only gives a menu to one person at the table?

Or at least asks if the other person also wants a menu. 

Edited after I re-read the original letter.  Still can't figure out why the woman didn't say something.
« Last Edit: August 26, 2014, 02:12:15 PM by magicdomino »

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Re: Should you have to specifically invite your date to order food?
« Reply #48 on: September 23, 2014, 05:53:12 PM »
I'm flabbergasted as to why the woman didn't ask for a menu if for some odd reason the waiter didn't give her one, and order food.  Why would she think that she needed permission to order?  I'm not getting it.