A female friend has mentioned that she has had a few dates with a man I hadn’t heard about. Things are going good, and I asked how she met him. She said she was walking down the street, honked his horn, and pulled up near her. (This was in a public area, during the day.)
I told her I’m glad it worked out, and she seems happy. But I also commented that I think a guy honking his horn, pulling up, motioning, etc. is (imo) kinda weird and tacky……also something more in line with what teenagers might do, not a man in his 40s. If he was that interested/attracted, he could have pulled over, gotten out of the car, and said “Hi, excuse me, but my name is xxxx. I was wondering if you’d like to have coffee (or whatever).” From there a conversation could begin or the woman would say “No, thanks” and they would move on.
It’s been a long time since I was approached by a horn-honker. The last time it happened I was a lot younger, we did chat as I stood outside his car, and we went out a few days later. Nothing came of it, but he didn’t take rejection well and became a problem. I’ve also had a few experiences where a man slows down, honks or says something indicating he is interested, I say “No, thanks” or ignore and he moves on.
Friend says maybe my unpleasant experience is coloring my opinion about ways that people try to meet/”hook up”/try to get a date.