I really hate the idea that the groom gets no say or isn't supposed to want a say. Every groom I've known so far has had some opinion on something in the wedding. Every single thing? Maybe not. But then, I know not every bride really cares about every single thing. My best friend and her husband for instance. She cared about the music, the flowers, the tuxes and our dresses. He cared about the food, the invitations, the cake, and the reception decorations. He also cared a little about our dresses (the tuxes didn't matter to him at all, they all looked the same, I told him he looked like James Bond just so he'd go to the tux store), he came with us and gave his input on what he did/didn't want for us. Anytime he'd come along people would joke about him getting "dragged" along. The only place he got dragged was shoe shopping because it was done between other things. Shoes he did not care about. His, ours, the groomsmen, didn't give a hoot if we all wore flip flops. He cared about his wedding because it was his wedding.
I do like to joke that for us, only the bride's opinion matters. Of course that's only because we have two brides and no groom. And we tend to divvy up tasks and research based on who cares about what. Partner has taken over the wedding site and invitations thus far, she cares more then I do she had a background in graphic design, I just give my input on writing. I've got the photographers and caters so far, I very much care about food and know what I like for photos. She knows she likes food and that there should probably be pictures. Things like cake and venue, we're handling together because we both care. I assume straight weddings would work the same way.
There's picture I've seen on Pinterest, it's apparently an engagement announcement. The girl has all these wedding magazines spread out all over and the guy looks completely bored so he's throwing money in the air and she's smiling and catching it. I really hate that picture. I hate it almost as much as the "Game Over" t-shirts with the bride and groom. Because duh, men hate weddings! And commitment! And marriage!! Well if they hate it so much why do they all keep getting married?