I heard one story, about a couple who had gone for fertility testing, and the doctors found out that she was a virgin in spite of their protestations that they "played scrabble" frequently. Seems that both of them were virgins at marriage, and the husband had no idea that there were two orifices in that general area... He'd been going after the wrong one! She'd been told scrabble would hurt at first -- great googly-moogly, of course it hurt! Urethras are not intended to be used like that.
I stop reading books too easily. Sometimes I don't enjoy them or the characters or plot are too annoying but often something just comes up or I get busy and abandon the book and never return to. Or I start reading something more interesting. How on earth does one manage that? One of those super-religious who thinks that simply sharing a bed = "sleeping together" = having sex? Or a partner who prefers the back door?
At the moment I'm struggling to finish a book I can only read a few pages before the heroine gets too annoying. She's pretty stupid and naive, trusts all the wrong people against evidence and is of course completely ignorant of her own feelings (and is a virgin without knowing it, despite being married for ten years). I would much rather read about the secondary couple.
The only explanation was that the husband was old and maybe impotent (though apparently he did something that was painful) and the heroine married very young and had no idea about sex. It was very strange.
Mom told me about that one - the things that people talk about at the hospital in the lab when there's no blood to be drawn or other substances to be tested....
I understand that she got stood up in front of a mirror & the doctor or nurse pointed out where things really were...and her hymen was cut - to give her a day or two of rest to allow healing. It is rare to have a hymen that covers most of the opening and has only a small hole or two to allow menses - but she was one of the lucky women with that arrangement. She also grew up in a rather more "religious" than average family who refused to allow women the use tampons before marriage - because they wouldn't be virgins! She might have had more information available to her about why there was so much pain...or her hymen might have been cut before the wedding "for medical reasons". Apparently for at least ONE time that happened, there was a reason that the urethra was found "first".
And I spent three nights shuddering at the whole idea - seriously - it was scarier than some ghost stories!