Also, having a discussion on a social networking site regarding etiquette the bride became very defensive stating that we should not be annoyed by the cash bar since we didn't buy a gift.
I will admit that I didn't give them the gift card I had recently purchased after seeing that we had to purchase out own beverages all night.
Boy, she doesn't get the cause-and-effect, does she?
Why be generous with them if they can't be bare-minimum with you?
I'll confess that I would be semi-defending her if the cash bar was for alcohol only, or if it was for hard liquor only.
But if you had to pay for a soda, or lemonade, and ONLY the water was provided?
That's crappy hosting. It's rude.
But it's also rude to have a conversation in public (which is what Facebook is--it's a loud conversation in the middle of the crowded room, one that it *intended* to be overheard--unless you change the privacy setting to exclude people, but even then it's pretty public) in which you openly criticize someone, even if you don't name them.