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Re: International Etiquette - The Malawi 'verbal smackdown'
« Reply #15 on: April 17, 2014, 09:24:32 AM »
Well that's true.  Though I do think a matter of fact "I gave to this cause because I find it truly worthy", or something to that effect, would suffice, and wouldn't sound (at least to me) that anyone was expecting a ticker-tape parade for their charity. 
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Re: International Etiquette - The Malawi 'verbal smackdown'
« Reply #16 on: April 17, 2014, 02:57:44 PM »
Well that's true.  Though I do think a matter of fact "I gave to this cause because I find it truly worthy", or something to that effect, would suffice, and wouldn't sound (at least to me) that anyone was expecting a ticker-tape parade for their charity.

Why do you feel she is asking for that?

And how would it have been possible for someone like Madonna, who is so much in the public eye to uikd a bunch of schools in a third world conutry without anyone knowing about it.

I really don't think she is doing it for show.  It's easy enough to write a check and let others handle it and never out your feet on the ground.

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Re: International Etiquette - The Malawi 'verbal smackdown'
« Reply #17 on: April 17, 2014, 03:02:23 PM »
Well, she was basically there to take pictures. It was definitely a publicity promotion. I'm not saying that's all bad, because it does highlight the need in the country. But, I do also doubt that she was there 100% out of the kindness of her own heart. And if she was, why would she care that the red carpet wasn't rolled out for her? Especially highlighted against what she was there to do (help ease the suffering of the less fortunate), complaining about not getting the VIP treatment seems petty.

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Re: International Etiquette - The Malawi 'verbal smackdown'
« Reply #18 on: April 17, 2014, 04:22:51 PM »
Well, she was basically there to take pictures. It was definitely a publicity promotion. I'm not saying that's all bad, because it does highlight the need in the country. But, I do also doubt that she was there 100% out of the kindness of her own heart. And if she was, why would she care that the red carpet wasn't rolled out for her? Especially highlighted against what she was there to do (help ease the suffering of the less fortunate), complaining about not getting the VIP treatment seems petty.

Seems to me the person doing the complaining is Banda.

Her sister getting fired from a cushy position at which she as ineffective seems the most likely motive for the temper tantrum.

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Re: International Etiquette - The Malawi 'verbal smackdown'
« Reply #19 on: April 17, 2014, 04:33:12 PM »
Well that's true.  Though I do think a matter of fact "I gave to this cause because I find it truly worthy", or something to that effect, would suffice, and wouldn't sound (at least to me) that anyone was expecting a ticker-tape parade for their charity.

Why do you feel she is asking for that?

And how would it have been possible for someone like Madonna, who is so much in the public eye to uikd a bunch of schools in a third world conutry without anyone knowing about it.

I really don't think she is doing it for show.  It's easy enough to write a check and let others handle it and never out your feet on the ground.

Honestly? Bias.  Madonna has quite a reputation for thinking VERY highly of herself and doing a lot to stay in the limelight and keep public attention on herself that it's hard to trust her motives.  That she expected the red carpet treatment kind of emphasizes that.

Unfair, perhaps, but sometimes it is hard to look past a person's MO when that person has a history of wanting people to pay attention to her and wanting a bit of ego-stroking.
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Re: International Etiquette - The Malawi 'verbal smackdown'
« Reply #20 on: April 17, 2014, 07:17:06 PM »
I thought Madonna's note was very nice, it was much more humble than I expected. I don't see how taking a moment to hand-write a thank-you is "overly personal" and complaining about it makes the other side look silly.



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Re: International Etiquette - The Malawi 'verbal smackdown'
« Reply #21 on: April 17, 2014, 09:19:52 PM »
That is kind of odd, as a handwritten note from a busy celebrity I imagine would be quite rare, as one would expect they'd typically get a PR person to send a printed note or form letter.

But I suspect it may be one of those things where, when you don't like a person everything they do annoys you.
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