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guihong

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Missing the point of a post-do I say anything? UPDATE #8
« on: April 14, 2014, 08:21:06 AM »
Hi, all:

I belong to Livejournal, but rarely post there; this was my first post since January, if it matters.  Yesterday I posted about attending a cultural festival that my father would have loved, and feeling overwhelmed with memories of sharing similar events with him.  I said that as a kid and teenager, I didn't understand or appreciate doing these events.   I closed with "I miss him so much".  I think I wanted hugs or "I understand how you feel", but a friend responded "Congratulations!  That's something to be proud of!  Thanks for sharing!" 

Is there something I'm missing?  The response doesn't seem to "fit" the post, or does it?  I didn't mean it as "Finally, I get it!  I understand!"  I meant, "I miss my dad", just as I said.
Is it worth saying something?  If so, how do I do that?
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Re: Missing the point of a post-do I say anything?
« Reply #1 on: April 14, 2014, 08:28:46 AM »
  I'd leave it.   Either they wildly misunderstood , used Google translate , commented on the wrong post , ?spam bot? , cut and pasted the wrong reply.  Correcting their reply is the internet equivalent of yelling at someone for not laughing at a joke/asking a stranger in the audience why they didn't cry at the sad part of the movie. 

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Re: Missing the point of a post-do I say anything?
« Reply #2 on: April 14, 2014, 09:26:53 AM »
I'm on LJ too and have had something similar happen to me. Once I replied "Sorry? I'm not sure I understand what you mean?" Another time I just deleted the comment, because I actually found the lack of understanding offensive.
 
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Re: Missing the point of a post-do I say anything?
« Reply #3 on: April 14, 2014, 09:39:09 AM »
Maybe they misinterpreted your post, and were supporting you for going to this event even though it was so difficult for you.  Either way, I'd let it go.

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Re: Missing the point of a post-do I say anything?
« Reply #4 on: April 14, 2014, 09:48:08 AM »
You say it's a friend si you could write back ''hey friend, I think you light have posted on the wrong post ''.

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Re: Missing the point of a post-do I say anything?
« Reply #5 on: April 14, 2014, 10:12:24 AM »
I bet you she read the headline and maybe the first paragraph.

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Re: Missing the point of a post-do I say anything?
« Reply #6 on: April 14, 2014, 12:29:50 PM »
Connecting with one's roots and family heritage could be something to be proud of ... I would let it go. That's part of putting things out into the world - people will interpret them in wildly different ways. Plus, her post was positive and encouraging, another reason not to respond negatively.

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Re: Missing the point of a post-do I say anything?
« Reply #7 on: April 14, 2014, 12:35:56 PM »
it's possible their account was hacked, that sounds like a spam comment.

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Re: Missing the point of a post-do I say anything? UPDATE #9
« Reply #8 on: April 14, 2014, 09:27:04 PM »
Thank you, all :).

I had already decided to take the comment as well-meant, as she's been a very supportive person for a long time. 

I bet I know what happened.  Two years ago, her father was killed in an auto accident at a relatively young age.  It was nearly a year before my friend could go anywhere or do certain activities that she strongly associated with his memory.  When she finally did so, I and her other friends were supportive and encouraging.  She's still going through some fallout around his estate as the legalities took a very long time, which keeps this loss rather fresh.   With me, my dad died several years ago at 92, and for want of a better word, it was "easier" for me to accept, grieve, and move on.  I wasn't dreading the festival and was caught off-guard with grief for him.  That's what I was trying to get at.

Just another reminder that the people who live "inside our screens" interpret our words through the scrim of their experiences :).



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Re: Missing the point of a post-do I say anything? UPDATE #9
« Reply #9 on: April 14, 2014, 09:47:13 PM »


Just another reminder that the people who live "inside our screens" interpret our words through the scrim of their experiences :).

Ain't that the truth! Very wise of you to see that in this situation.