For me, the major learning is that it is critical to discuss expectations, since they seem to vary much more than I'd intended. For example, if I met someone at a bar playing pool who I was interested in, I might suggest meeting there on another night, or maybe getting coffee sometime. Those, to me, would be a date, but wouldn't have remotely suggested exclusivity until they had occurred multiple times. Similarly, having 2 or 3 first dates with people from an on-line site wouldn't seem odd to me at all, since, to put it nicely, not everyone is the same in person as they are on line or on the phone.
To answer whiterose's question, "Yes, but would you have kissed all of them? Would you snuggle with all of them? Would you gaze into the eyes of all of them?" Maybe, not sure on what snuggle exactly implies, but I assume more than a kiss, less than scrabble, so No, and Maybe.