Thinking about the recent thread where how much of an obligation do you have if you want guests to attend your wedding.
If you pick a venue thats difficult to get to, ( I would think more than a 2 hour drive ) - then I think you need to understand that some people may not be able to attend.
Lakhouse Sally's son is getting married this fall to a really nice girl. I'm very happy for them.
Unfortunately the date they gave out for the wedding is on a weekend where DS14 has a major athletic event. As a freshman he was a breakout in this event and will probably do very well this coming year.
The wedding is going to be held at a location probably 7 hours away from where we ( and the rest of DH's family) lives . The bride is from another region of the US, we are not sure why they are picking this venue which is a long drive for the grooms family and airline distance for the bride's family. But I am a big advocate of doing what you want for your wedding... because hey ... it is your wedding.
However if you pick a destination that is far away - then you need to make sure you are going to be OK with an RSVP of no.
The time frame coupled with the location is going to make it very difficult if not impossible for us to go. I think Nephew will be OK with it .... but Lakehouse Sally will not.
She started to push DH about if we will be there because we did not attend her daughters wedding. ( The wedding date conflicted with our year in advance, planned, booked and paid for Disney vacation ) Sally really thought we should have rebooked or cancelled our trip.
Dh said - you know, what we might be able to do - is leave sporting event early - drive straight up, go to evening wedding ( assuming it is an evening wedding - we don't know details yet ) , stay for some of the reception and head home. ( Stopping midway to sleep and freshen up). Head out next AM.
Lakehouse Sally says - but you need to bring Mom to the rehearsal dinner and the wedding and the reception. I need yo uto bring her and take care of her that weekend. DH said - I don't think that 93 year old, mobility limited , slighty confused Mom is going to be OK with a 7 hour trip ,coupled with a hotel stay. Plus we won't be able to come up on a Friday. POF will not be able to take off work that week ( big board meeting is the following Monday ! ).
DH also said - we weren't planning on the rehearsal anyway since we aren't in the wedding. Sally responds with - you just need to see that mom gets there. DH said - you can't really assume that we will be available all weekend - you need to make some other arrangements.
If the wedding was local, we could easily get mom to the wedding. Even if DH and I split up at times, we would be able to work it out. But at a 7 hour away venue. not going to happen.
It was ver difficult getting her to my son's confirmation which was local and wheelchair accessible. . She' s just very frail.
its going to be very interesting.