We live in the San Francisco Bay Area.
DD#3 just got married a week ago, in a tiny ceremony with her parents, her sisters, her best friend, her husband's good friend who was also the officiant, and a photographer. That's it. Locally done at a small but pretty public venue, over in 20 minutes. Then we went out for burgers and DH paid the tab. They wanted it tiny because my new SIL has some social anxiety, and is mostly estranged from his family, so she restricted who could know and come from our side of the family. Lots of baggage, not my department, and I'll blab about it on FB when she gives me the all clear. No idea when that will be, but I'm not holding my breath.
DD#2, who got engaged pretty much the same weekend, wants to get married at Burning Man in 2015. DH has health issues, and I have NO desire to go to the Nevada desert in August, and camp on the playa. In fact, that's pretty much my idea of Hell. Nor can I really afford to pay for two tickets to BM, or incur the costs necessary to camp there reasonably comfortably. Her DF is a really nice man, and I like what I've seen of his parents (Thanksgiving, so not a lot of in depth interaction) - but DD#2's choice of location is a deal breaker for our side. Nor can her sisters afford to take time off or camp for a week - and it's our understanding that BM does not allow a quickie weekend visit (which we'd swing if we had to). If she'd move it to Vegas the weekend before or after, we'd all be there in a heart beat. In the desert, with a mandatory week? Not so much. There's going to be hurt feelings when she actually realizes this. Picking the time to TELL her that her choice of venue precludes all her immediate family from attending is our tricky point.
I won't see her until Mother's Day (May 11th) and I'm not bringing it up then, and I'll do my best to Duck And Cover if she brings it up that day!