B/G- Since before I was born, my godparents have thrown an annual party for the first night of fishing season. The party starts at midnight and goes to the early hours of the morning. I went to my first party at around 9 or 10 and continued attending regularly until a few years ago.
The parties changed tone when I hit my late teens/early 20s as it became less my godparents' party and more their son's (who is my age). A lot more people (20 or so in my childhood to 50+) and a lot more drinking and hard partying. In my early 20s I really enjoyed this party and always had a great time, however I have outgrown that type of extreme partying. Also part of the reason I attended the party was because it reminded me of my father, as we always went together, however it's been more than 10 years since my father was killed and I no longer feel the same urge to cling to the things that remind me of him as I once did.
DH also does not enjoy these parties at all. He doesn't like the cold, doesn't fish, and find the crowd of drunk people obnoxious. He went with me a few times, but he does not enjoy it.
I did not conciously stop attending. The first year I missed I was 5 months pregnant (and was not going to subject myself to a treacherous path in the dark, a crowd of drunk people and late nights) and then the next year I did not have a baby-sitter and then last year I was 8 months pregnant. So I have not been in three years, right before I got married was the last one. End B/G.
I have been asked about whether I am coming this year. I have truthfully answered that I have a commitment. I know I will continue to be asked and really I have no intention of every going again, it is just not my idea of a good time. I love these people and I have fond memories of these parties, but it's not where I am in my life anymore. I know it's going to come again, probably every year, and I'd love to come up with a good response to make it clear its not something I"m interested in any more, without causing any hurt feelings. I think my godfather takes it a bit personally, as I"m turning my back on tradition and in the past, he's referenced my later father and how "he'd want me there" and I'd like to shut that down, as it is hurtful. I'd also rather not have to deal with this every year.