Several months ago I moved away from my parents' house. It was sudden and I didn't give much information (this also explains my extended absence here). Since then, I curtailed any contact substantially (fb message every few weeks), and eventually simply stopped responding. At this point I'm choosing to stay out of contact with my entire family. Eventually, I plan on re-establishing contact with my sisters, but not with my parents.
Throughout this time, my mother and one of my sisters have sent a couple of Facebook messages to one particular friend of mine. She's been vague in answering, saying things like "as far as I know, she's happy and safe". Yesterday, my mother ramped it up to an entirely new level. She sent messages to many of my friends via Facebook and phone, saying she was worried sick about me and yadda, yadda, yadda. Two of my friends responded with vague, "she's safe as far as I know" type messages. The others ignored her.
So, here's my question. I didn't really do a proper cut direct. I just sort of disappeared and stopped talking to them. My friends have been willing to play intermediary for me, but that's going to get old fast. I really need to say something to them directly, but I'm not sure how to do it. I simply have no desire to speak to them ever again. On the other hand, I don't want them to do something stupid like filing a missing persons report. Of course, I have every right to up and move away. I'm an adult and they have no guardianship rights to my children, but that won't necessarily stop them from trying. So, considering I've been ignoring all attempts at contact and I'm nowhere close to where they think I might be, what can I say to them to make it clear that they're no longer welcome in my life?
On another note, no matter what I say, there will be hysterics and martyr-like melodrama because I'm so horrible and so on and so forth, so how do I counter that? For both things, I'm looking for a phrase or set of phrases that isn't mean and spiteful, but makes it clear that this is *my* choice and nothing they say or do will change my mind.
*And yes, I've considered that they might be looking online to places that they know I read/post on, and that they could be reading this, but that's a risk I'm willing to take.