My ex-husband (and son's father) lost his job last month. He's gotten another on as a night security for a storage facility that was supposed to come with an apartment. However, the apartment is not livable at this time and will not be ready for about another week. So, because he gave up his previous apartment, he's been sleeping on a cot in one of the storage units. He has a car but when he picked up our son for his visitation (only during the day, nothing overnight until he has a place to stay), he had taken the bus all the way across town-at least two hours. He wasn't upset when he had to wait to pick up DS for over an hour because he was early and he wasn't upset that I forgot to send a jacket with DS so he could only keep him outside for a short amount of time.
I've told my ex he should talk to the employment specialist in my office. I've given suggestions for jobs and places he can go for temporary help. We've invited him in for dinner when he's picked up DS. I'm suspicious that his car has been impounded and he doesn't want to say anything because normally, he would have been furious about the jacket and accused me of purposely trying to shorten the time he would get to spend with DS. I saw him walking to the bus stop after he dropped DS off at my parents house and offered him a ride to the bus stop as the nearest one is about a mile away. He refused.
Regardless of our problems, I want to help him get back on his feet mostly for our DS's sake. Other than the resources I've suggested and leads on jobs through the state (I work for the state in the welfare division so I deal with this all the time), is there anything else I should do? Or should I butt out and as long as our DS is okay, deal with the fact that his father has no desire to do more than work $8/hr jobs?