Hi, just this afternoon an interesting issue came up with my roommate. She has moved to The Netherlands just 3 weeks ago from a completely different country (former soviet union,) with different dating/etiquette rules etc, and I was wondering what the people at Ehell would say about her issue.
She has been in contact with a man through an internet site. He has been trying to meet up IRL. Today she wanted to go to an event in another city, so she invited him to meet her there, to which he suggestd going by his car, which she accepted. She then gave him our address so he could pick her up (which is perfectly fine by me)
The issue came when he came to pick her up. He walked to the door and rang the doorbell, to pick her up. She opened, then asked him to wait a minute outside while she got her stuff together. While she grabbed her bag, she made it clear to me that she thought he was weird for coming to the door. Why didn't he just call her when he was in the street, so she could come out to meet him.
I said, you gave him the address. If I get an address, I would go to the door to pick up a date as well. If you do not want him to pick you up at the door, give him the street only and ask him to call when he is there. I am also pretty much convinced that Dutch women would see you in a very bad light if you just called from the car when you come to pick them up instead of walking to the door. They would probably consider you a lazy bum who should get off his seat and walk the few steps to the door.
Off course, now I am curious about the international (female) perspective to this (will ask some female Dutch friends about this as well.)
When your date comes to pick you up for a first date and he has both your telephone number and your address, where the house is easy to find and reach etc. Do you expect your date to come to the door to pick you up, or do you expect him to call you, so you can come out to the car?