My experience has been, initially, dates come to the door to pick me up. Back in HS, absolutely, so my parents could meet him, etc. If we'd been dating for a while, simply pulling into the driveway was fine, and more often than not, I'd be waiting right inside the door, and go out, but that my was choice.
In college, dates would come to the reception, and they'd buzz my room, and I'd come to the lobby. Very rarely did they come direclty to my room, unless we were going to be hanging out there, and as everyone had to be signed in, I'd still have to come down and do that.
Now, I will say I really have not dated since moving out on my own. The few times have been blind dates, doubling with the couple that set us up, so I met them at their house, and we went from there. Were I to decide to try online dating, initially, I'm meeting them somewhere neutral, and no way in heck are they getting my address. I'd expect, at the end, if we met at a restaurant, they'd walk me to my car, but nothing more. And if it ever progressed to them coming to my apt, yes, I'd expect they come to the door, and walk me to the door, unless I said "just call and I'll come out when you get here"