Thanks for your replies. I checked the FB "Other" message folder and no message was there. (I don't like that message dividing system, either). Yes, it was harsh what I did, but somehow it felt right at the time and still does, though it may have been a mistake. I don't know if you do the same, but when that new message icon highlights in red at the top of my FB, I find it very noticeable and always click and read. But, I don't receive or send many FB private messages - 10 or less a year.