My friend K (who has never read this site) and I are constantly telling our friend H to stop JADEing, only neither of us use that phrase. For example, H was asked by a coworker to switch shifts so the coworker could have Motherís day off since sheís a mother and H is not. H said, No, I need to spend the day with my own mother. And then, No, I canít, it would leave me short on hours one week and in OT the next and thatís not allowed. And every time the coworker came back to ask again, H gave her another excuse. We told her to stop making excuses, just say No, the coworker had her answer, if she didnít like it that was her problem.