Neighbors/friends are having a garage sale. We have a lot of stuff to get rid of too. DH was casually talking with neighbor mom and came back and told me...he thought it was a great idea...gee, WE should sell some stuff at their sale! Yippee! He offhandedly mentioned that I should take some stuff down there, I told him it wasn't a good idea with a small amount of my rationale (will get to that in a minute) and then we went on to something else. This was about a week ago.
Well, I don't dispute that we have a lot of stuff to get rid of. But we had a disagreement this morning b/c he's upset that I didn't take his 'suggestion' and run with it...namely, that I haven't contacted NM to arrange to take some stuff to their garage sale. Ugh.
See, when I was younger (teenager?), we had a garage sale. From this, I KNOW they're a lot of work....cleaning the garage, marking stuff, arranging, and just sitting there for two days and haggling with people who come to look at your stuff and still want to get it cheaper than the already cheap prices we put on it. We also paid for an ad in the paper and went around the neighborhood putting up signs. Then neighbor (wife of a very busy couple with a somewhat starved-for-parental-attention little girl) marched over and asked if she could bring 'a few things' to sell them at our sale. Not knowing how to say no, we said okay. So that neighbor marches back over with armloads of toys that her DD had outgrown. Way more than a few. Just dumped them with us. We didn't see her for the two days of the sale, until she stopped by to pick up the money from what she sold (and it was a good percentage of the money we made, b/c hey, kids toys always go well). She never offered us anything for our time or effort in selling her stuff, nor offered us anything toward the ad in the paper that we had to pay for. Barely said thanks. Just took her money and left. For my mother and I, we were supremely annoyed; we had put in all of the work for the sale, and she just piggybacked on our work and benefitted from it with no effort of her own.
So anyway, now that DH wants to take a bunch of our stuff to NM's sale, I DON'T want to become the woman that annoyed me so much. I don't want to presume anything. From that experience, my rationale is that I think it's rude to try to horn in on her sale when we haven't done any of the prep work. I, of course, would sit there with her for at least some of the time, but I don't even want to put her in the same position that I was in with our past neighbor, where we didn't feel we could say no and have it cause hard feelings.
I told DH that if it was so important to him, then HE should ask them. I could sit there at the sale, of course, b/c he'll be at work and I don't work that day. He was annoyed that I didn't just jump right in on his offhand suggestion last week. We DO have stuff to get rid of, and I think that's all he's thinking about. I agree, we DO. But I don't feel that this isn't the way to do it.
So tell me, did my past experience give me a bad perspective and make me oversensitive about this, or is it truly rude to try to horn in on someone else's garage sale like my husband is suggesting? If he still gives me a hard time about it, I want to at least know if I'm being unreasonable, or be able to counter that it's just not good for friend/neighbor relations to put them on the spot like that.
**By the way, it starts TOMORROW. That's part of his complaint with me....I should have asked them last week. Well, I told him I was uncomfortable with it last week, and he never went any farther either. Ugh. But regardless of that, to ask NOW...I think the last-minute nature of the request would look even worse.