I do hate to be pushy, but when 12 of us are discussing where to go for dinner, once the type of restaurant is decided, like Culver's vs Steak'n'Shake or Olive Garden vs. Texas Steakhouse, I will decide. I could let it go on for another 20 minutes, but Darn it! I'm hungry. I don't really care! Let's just go!
Ah yes. I call this resolving group indecision. Even if the group is just two of us. No one wants to step up and decide or even express a preference for fear of being seen as, well, for lack of a better word, bossy. Me? I'm known as the bossy one among my groups of friends but you know, in a good way.
I always say, if you need someone to tell you what to do, come see me.
But you know, sometimes people actually do
need someone to tell them what to do. If it's just so that they won't feel like they appear to be the snowflake or if it's just because they really can't decide. I'm happy to just come out and say, I'd prefer xyz so unless anyone objects, let's do that. I believe that there are
people who are relieved and grateful when someone takes the lead like that.