Last weekend, I took my girls swimming. After swimming, I had my four year old girl stripped down in the ladies locker room so that I don't have to worry about forgetting her swimwear in the shower. Both my hands were full of her things: dry towel, toiletries, clothes. She was carrying a wet towel (from the pool), but chose not to wrap it around her body because she kept tripping.
The female locker room has a sign on the door that says "Boys over the age of five are strictly prohibited from entering". Just as we were on our way to the shower area, a lady with three kids (presumably her children) entered. One was a girl about 6-7 years old. The other two were boys. The younger boy was still at toddler age. But the third child was a boy who was obviously the eldest child. He was about 10-11 years old. He was standing at the door of the locker (so we cannot walk past him without attracting his attention), and my daughter was completely in the nude. The lady was busy drying her toddler and dressing him while the other two older kids were just standing next to the door, obviously waiting for her.
I took a deep breath and stood there for a moment, wondering if I should say something. I am normally a non-confrontational person, but somehow that was the day that I thought I should say something. So I steeled myself and asked "Excuse me, are those your kids?"
She said "Yes, they are". I said "Your son is too old to be here".
She sighed and said "I know........".
I cut her off before she could continue because (1) the confrontation was making me so uncomfortable that I needed to stop here, (2) my daughter was nude and (3) she was getting cold. I just said "My daughter has a right to her shower without boys being in here". And then I stood between the boy and the door (to block him from view) and ushered my daughter to the showers.
The incident still bothers me. What I did was truly uncharacteristic of me because I have no backbone when it comes to confronting a stranger. I am still wondering if I should have just shut up, put down my things, wrapped the towel around my daughter and left quietly for the showers. Instead, I froze for a couple of minutes, and then confronted her. I even forgot to wrap the towel around my daughter because I was so unnerved by the whole thing. Looking back, I feel that I handled this wrongly.
Any comments and suggestions for my future reference?