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magicdomino

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Re: Men usually don't garden
« Reply #15 on: June 19, 2014, 01:23:03 PM »
Adrian Higgins, the Washington Post gardening columnist, would find this surprising.

I have to admit though, I never had many male neighbors who were interested in anything besides the lawn, and maybe a vegetable garden.  Flowers have tended to be planted by women.  Then again, this is a very small sample since there aren't many people in the neighborhood who are into gardening in general. 

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Re: Men usually don't garden
« Reply #16 on: June 19, 2014, 01:57:56 PM »
Maybe her husband put this idea in her head because he is too lazy to do it?

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Re: Men usually don't garden
« Reply #17 on: June 25, 2014, 03:55:09 PM »
Adrian Higgins, the Washington Post gardening columnist, would find this surprising.

I have to admit though, I never had many male neighbors who were interested in anything besides the lawn, and maybe a vegetable garden.  Flowers have tended to be planted by women.  Then again, this is a very small sample since there aren't many people in the neighborhood who are into gardening in general.
Yes, so would renowned gardening expert Jerry Baker. And the PNW's own wacky plant guy, Ciscoe Morris.

The yard was always my dad's domain. Of course, he wanted all grass and bark, while my mom wanted flowers...
maybe the neighbor in the OP pictures delicately misting the pwetty flowers as "gardening," instead of wielding big machines like mowers, weedwackers, edgers, chippers and hedge trimmers (not that women can't do this too).
Notice how many gardening commercials show a guy lording over the yard? And guys are always shown using the big tools and machines while the women are all kneeling and planting flowers? ::)

Obviously gardening is for whoever has the passion and knack for it.
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Re: Men usually don't garden
« Reply #18 on: June 26, 2014, 09:51:30 PM »
It's very common in my circle for men to post on Facebook "Here's pics of what I planted in my spring garden. Daisies, roses, squash, peppers, basil, etc. My sunflowers have grown pretty fast already. I used the basil when I baked bread last night."

*I'm really disappointed with the NY Times. They act surprised these men my age were interested in plants, saying you get interested in gardening when you qualify for Medicare Part B  ??? I also disliked the whole "look how nerdy they are, one didn't have many teenage dates" angle. So rude  :P
http://www.nytimes.com/2014/06/26/garden/botanys-new-boys.html
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« Reply #19 on: August 24, 2014, 10:17:14 AM »
My father was a very keen gardener.  For a while, a next door neighbor was a man from Southern Italy who was also a keen gardener.  Mr. X spoke very little English.  Apart from 'zucchini' Dad was totally ignorant of Italian but they seemed to understand each other perfectly. 

Well, the two of them got together and had a little fun with an apple tree that bordered their properties. By the time they finished, that tree was bearing three different types of apple.  Everybody who visited either house had to be shown that miraculous tree.

At another time, Dad unearthed an old rattan tea cart.  He filled it with some of his best potted plants and parked it on the side lawn.  Every evening he wheeled it into the garage and every morning wheeled it back out.  When asked why he did this, he said that he wanted to show off his handiwork to cars driving down the street. 

Oh, men can be very interested in gardening. 

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« Reply #20 on: August 24, 2014, 01:02:38 PM »
Me?  I'm known as the plant assassin.  I once killed a cactus by underwatering it.  :-[

I'll do you one better.

I am the plant torturer. I neglect them until they're on the brink of death. Then I get concerned and water them enough to revive them. Then I neglect them again...

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Re: Men usually don't garden
« Reply #21 on: September 01, 2014, 09:51:44 AM »
In the UK gardens are more often the man's thing - at least, in the past and with 'traditional' couples.

It's not exactly set in stone though. I can't imagine anyone finding it odd for either a man or a woman to do gardening.

I think the person in the story is a little odd.

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Re: Men usually don't garden
« Reply #22 on: September 01, 2014, 12:36:37 PM »
In the UK gardens are more often the man's thing - at least, in the past and with 'traditional' couples.

It's not exactly set in stone though. I can't imagine anyone finding it odd for either a man or a woman to do gardening.

I think the person in the story is a little odd.

There is a British sitcom I watch where the husband does the gardening on the days he isn't working - and in fact is expected to spend his retirement "puttering around" in the garden while the wife uses the flowers he grows in tasteful arrangements to accent her dinner parties. In this instance it is less an issue of 'traditional' gender roles and more an issue of social class (or aspiration towards higher class). She would never garden because it involves getting dirty.  :P I also notice that when it comes to "domestics," the cook and maids are female and the gardener is always male. But the lady of the house still oversees the garden and will talk about her flowers and herbs. Quite an interesting cultural situation with very seemingly malleable boundaries.
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Re: Men usually don't garden
« Reply #23 on: September 01, 2014, 01:08:18 PM »
My dad has always been very proud of his garden. These kind of statements are so strange.

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« Reply #24 on: September 19, 2014, 06:51:34 AM »
Adrian Higgins, the Washington Post gardening columnist, would find this surprising.

So would Alan Tichmarsh, Monty Don and the guys from the BBC2 programme Gardeners' Question Time on Radio 4 in the UK.

And Percy Thrower was the great gardening expert on TV and Radio when I was a child in the 1950s

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« Reply #25 on: November 25, 2014, 09:26:42 AM »
Middle DD's BF loves to work in the garden with his grandfather and has said when he has a home of his own he hopes he has room for a garden there. 

Meanwhile, I'm considering putting in some raised beds in the spring and letting him have at it because I have little time to tend plants, but I love fresh tomatoes.  ;D

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Re: Men usually don't garden
« Reply #26 on: November 25, 2014, 02:47:42 PM »
My father learned to garden from his mother.

But as a farmer's wife, the garden was edible produce to eat fresh, can, or (later in the 20th century) freeze for the family.  Especially attractively arranged cans might be entered in the county fair...but they ended up being eaten sooner or later! 

Dad gardened into his late seventies - just the plot got smaller decade by decade.  They'll be moving in with Baby Brother, TallSIL (to distinguish her from the ones shorter by six inches or more), and their two girls (high school age) in January or February 2015 - I have no idea if he'll be doing any gardening at their house, it's a bit further north than we ever lived growing up, so he'd have to check out the changes before planning a new garden...but he might.  He's a lot more active than any number of his peers...

But I never heard anyone say that "men don't usually garden" - granted, Dad's gardens were always food - no decorative flowers unless they were in a flower bed in front of the house (roses). 
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« Reply #27 on: November 25, 2014, 04:40:57 PM »
My dad gardened (flowers, shrubs, trees, food) because it was part of "yard work," and "yard work" was his territory. I always thought of yard work as being "mostly done by men," partly bcs that's how my family did it and partly because it took some physical strength.  But I thought of gardening as "done by either."


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Re: Men usually don't garden
« Reply #28 on: January 14, 2015, 12:11:00 PM »
Me?  I'm known as the plant assassin.  I once killed a cactus by underwatering it.  :-[

I'll do you one better.

I am the plant torturer. I neglect them until they're on the brink of death. Then I get concerned and water them enough to revive them. Then I neglect them again...

And I can do better (or worse) than that.

I managed to kill an artificial plant.   Mail-ordered a nice fern to  decorate the house.  When I got it, I followed the instructions, and put each frond in the styrofoam they provided, in a nice glass bowl, and set it out on the coffee table.  Over the next few days, it **withered**!!  It was not in the sun, or next to a heating vent.  I tried spraying water on it.  Nothing helped it.

So now I am know as the family member that killed an artificial plant.

On the other hand, I used to have a thriving herb garden, before I got too bad healthwise to keep it up.

   

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Re: Men usually don't garden
« Reply #29 on: January 14, 2015, 05:38:15 PM »
Dad gardened - with the help of four kids and three hoes...we took turns.

Mom canned, froze, cooked, made jelly, and otherwise did the food prep from what we kids were picking.  She didn't have time to garden...
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