I'm dipping a toe back into the dating
world. I have zero expectations and I'm not actively looking for Mr. Right, but I just wanted to see what's out there.
After a couple of emails with a gentleman, he asked me out for coffee/dinner. I said, "Coffee on Sunday?"
To which he responded, "I might be going out of town that day, but it should be okay."
This hit me the wrong way, but since I'm still quite unsure about myself after the disintegration of my marriage, I don't know if my annoyance was reasonable. I responded, "How about you pick a day later in the week that you can commit to and if it fits my calendar, we're on?"
He started negotiating, "Let's say Sunday and I can confirm on Friday, unless you need a week's notice
That *really* hit me the wrong way. A friend told me that I was definitely reacting because of my emotional baggage. I did a lot of compromising and bending in my marriage in an effort to keep the peace and I just don't want to do that anymore.
I did agree to the tentative plans, but my instinctual response to his negotiation was that it was rude... but again, I don't trust my own reactions.