Sigh ... I absolutely detest the phrase " Can you help me out ? " when it is used to borrow or bum money . A former friend used it constantly . It seemed to me that he was portraying himself as an innocent victim of circumstances beyond his control .
It's just such a dodgy way of putting it . Refusal implies that you are the sort of person who would not help a friend .
He stopped coming around after I told him " No , but you can help yourself . " and followed that up with a list of all the part time jobs available in our area .
Apparently , that was not the kind of "help" he was looking for .