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iridaceae

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Re: Too "overweight" to attend a wedding
« Reply #30 on: July 14, 2014, 05:56:41 AM »
Yeah she doesn't want you at the shower: only your gift. Well,  just possibly she wants you there so when people say "gee where's YourName?" at the wedding she can be all "I don't know! She said she'd come- she was at my shower!" and make you look bad.

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Re: Too "overweight" to attend a wedding
« Reply #31 on: July 14, 2014, 07:23:51 AM »
Would it be out of line to laugh in someone's face if they said something like that?  Because no one would actually be that clueless and cruel to a friend, so it must be a joke...right?

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Re: Too "overweight" to attend a wedding
« Reply #32 on: July 14, 2014, 09:40:02 AM »

OP: I'm glad you put "friend" in quotes yourself, so we all know you're not wondering if this is normal what-friends-do behavior! Listen to your BF. Don't go to the shower. She's not acting like a friend to you and you don't need to behave like a friend to her. Wish her well in the future, and be done with it.

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Re: Too "overweight" to attend a wedding
« Reply #33 on: July 14, 2014, 09:44:00 AM »
 :o :o :o :-[ :-[ :-[ ::) ::) ::)

I have no words....what a horrible person she is.

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Re: Too "overweight" to attend a wedding
« Reply #34 on: July 14, 2014, 09:54:48 AM »
I agree with your bf. Send your regrets for the shower and do not send a gift.

This person is not a friend. I would drop her and find new friends.

Ditto.





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Re: Too "overweight" to attend a wedding
« Reply #35 on: July 14, 2014, 11:23:13 AM »
Are they ziplining to the wedding location, and it has a max weight limit? That's the only way I could see where a guest's weight would matter.

What a nasty person.

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Re: Too "overweight" to attend a wedding
« Reply #36 on: July 14, 2014, 12:10:02 PM »
Are they ziplining to the wedding location, and it has a max weight limit? That's the only way I could see where a guest's weight would matter.

What a nasty person.

Maybe taking a llama train (llamas won't normally carry more than 100 pounds, I've heard).
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Re: Too "overweight" to attend a wedding
« Reply #37 on: July 14, 2014, 01:08:38 PM »
Wow...I have no words except that that woman is definitely NOT your friend!

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Re: Too "overweight" to attend a wedding
« Reply #38 on: July 14, 2014, 01:10:58 PM »
So she wants your presents- but your presence would mar the occasion.

I suggest you lose 100+ lbs immediately by dumping this "friend."
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Re: Too "overweight" to attend a wedding
« Reply #39 on: July 14, 2014, 01:39:00 PM »
So she wants your presents- but your presence would mar the occasion.

I suggest you lose 100+ lbs immediately by dumping this "friend."
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I would not want to be associated with someone this shallow. 

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Re: Too "overweight" to attend a wedding
« Reply #40 on: July 14, 2014, 02:27:50 PM »
This is one of the most horrible things I've ever read on here.  I hope you rid yourself of this nasty NASTY person.  If I were you I would take whatever money you would have spent on a wedding gift and treat yourself to something fabulous, like a fancy dinner out or a special bottle of wine.

ETA - I'm curious...have you told the other girls in your group what she said?

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Re: Too "overweight" to attend a wedding
« Reply #41 on: July 14, 2014, 02:51:41 PM »
Wow!! I am truly sorry.  As others posted, drop her as a friend.  She is not a true friend.  I have always struggled with my weight and I find her very offensive :( 

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Re: Too "overweight" to attend a wedding
« Reply #42 on: July 14, 2014, 05:10:43 PM »
That "friend" is a special kind of nasty. Don't go to the shower, and definitely don't send a gift. As PP have said, I wouldn't go out of my way to tell mutual friends what happened, but if the subject of the wedding or shower and/or your lack of attendance at same happen to come up, I would absolutely tell them why you're not attending (and also why this person is no longer your friend).

I'm sorry you had to deal with that.


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Re: Too "overweight" to attend a wedding
« Reply #43 on: July 14, 2014, 05:54:45 PM »
That might be the rudest thing I've heard.  Let's just count the ways:  a horribly rude statement, a gift grab, talking about a party to which you are not invited... at least there should be no doubt in your mind how shallow she is.

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Re: Too "overweight" to attend a wedding
« Reply #44 on: July 14, 2014, 07:02:40 PM »
Let's see... in sports they have terms for that...

Hockey:  3 goals = hat trick
Bowling: 3 consecutive strikes = a turkey
Baseball: 3 strikes, you're out

However , in a 3-handed game of whist the exposed hand is a Dummy...