Janet is friends with my friends, but I don't consider her to be a friend. Also, her mother was just diagnosed with cancer. Truth is, I actually don't really like her due to some past history, so this may be coloring my feelings, but some feedback and suggestions on an appropriate response would be appreciated.
Last week, Janet asked if she could borrow some tables and chairs from us for a party she was having for her children on Saturday (my children were invited), and she said she'd return them to us on Sunday, which is good because my husband needs the tables by tomorrow (Wednesday). Very long story shortened, basically she pushed us off till tonight - after dinner, but then didn't tell me when after dinner (that is a fairly large window) - so earlier this evening I emailed her and said:
"Just checking in to find out when you will be here."
Her response to me sent 45 minutes later (and I'm cutting and pasting but editing out identifying info):
"You know, I'm trying my best. I had a long day with my mother with her doctor in City an Hour Away, the main place for her treatments.
Steven is about to load up the car and he will be over shortly."
So, when her husband arrived, my husband was not home and it was the middle of getting my kids ready for bed (we get into pj's 30 minutes before bedtime and then everyone reads for that half-hour - so not critical bedtime schedule but not ideal either).
I don't know how to respond. As I said we have history (they kept calling me and my DH for favors when I was in labor with my middle child and they'd been told I was in labor by my mother who was watching our oldest). I don't think my request was so horrible - I was just looking to find out when he was going to be at my door. A part of me thinks it is best to just ignore and remember this in the future; a part of me wants to write back that I needed to know because I'd also had a long day at work, was trying to get my kids ready to go to bed and my DH wasn't home so I needed to know to plan my own life. The really angry part of me wants to say that well, her best involved treating me like crap and I'll remember that when she needs something in the future but that isn't an option I'm actually considering, obviously.