Wearing Makeup

[Brentwood]

I have never figured out just WHY we need to paint our faces up.  Guys don't have to do it to be accepted.

But then Mom never wore makeup.  Your face is your face. Treat it your way.  I would rather see a "naked" face then one that you could scrape your name in.

Makeup just feels so phony on my face.  Like, that's not who I am.

My mom never wore makeup either. Ever. She said she tried lipstick when she was 15 and hated it. I have a sister who never wears makeup either, and two sisters who wear very little. I wear makeup most days, so I'm the anomaly in my family.

[Brentwood]

The only time I wear make-up is for special events or when I'm onstage performing. Otherwise it's too much of a hassle and I don't like going through that. The same thing with dressing up, only for special occassions or costuming purposes. That is just my personal style. I have been judged negatively for being like this. It was a big bone of contention with my last boyfriend and I. He felt that I needed to show how much I really cared about him by dressing up and wearing make-up for him. He told me that he was the 'special occasion' and needed to be treated as such if he was important to me. Funny, because I don't remember making it a requirement that he lose those excess thirty pounds of weight he carried to show that he cared about me. He even took me to a store once and bought me two formal dresses so I wouldn't have an excuse!

I feel that as long as a person is well-groomed and wears clean clothes, that is enough.

It sounds like you're better off with that boyfriend in the past. Anyone who wants you to change who you are to show "respect" and "caring" isn't the one for you.

[NotCinderell]

I only wear makeup a few times a year, when I've got a fancy event to go to.  When I do, I usually only wear powder, blush, lipstick and mascara.  My husband prefers the way I look without it, and obviously, if you're the type of girl who doesn't wear makeup, you attract the type of guys who prefer women without.

[madmusician]

Boyfriend actually hates it when I wear lipstick because then he can't kiss me...As for other makeup, he doesn't care. He says he likes to be able to see my freckles, but if wearing makeup makes me happy then I should wear it.

Thanks guys, I was just making sure I wasn't already off my rocker.

[Slartibartfast]

I don't wear makeup, either - never have.  A friend in college was just shocked that I didn't own any, so she dragged me to the mall and we got some basic makeup in neutral tones for me (just lipstick, blush, and eyeshadow), and I wear that if DH and I are going to a fancy function.  I also wear glasses most of the time, and only wear contacts for special occasions (I'm just too lazy to spare the extra 5 minutes in the morning . . .), and I wear my hair long or in a ponytail.

My DH loves my look best first thing in the morning, when my hair is still messed up and I'm in rumpled pajamas.  (I love his "bed-beard" look, too - I guess other men with beards must have the same thing, but I've never been in the situation to find out!)  When DH and I first started dating, I wore my contacts a lot to "look my best" - but *me* is blind as a bat and doesn't care about makeup, so I appreciate that he loves me the way I am.  I do try to wear decent clothes and some jewelry so I don't look like a complete slob, but makeup is NOT required to be a "real woman."  I'm glad I'm not the only one who does this.

[Venus193]

By the gods...

I only wear makeup these days at work for client meetings and equivalent occasions.  Outside of work it's for parties and equivalent things, like going to the opera.  I actually look better with makeup and while it doesn't take long for me to put it on, it somehow still seems like a big deal.

[Athos_000]

Boyfriend actually hates it when I wear lipstick because then he can't kiss me

My DH is the same way. I would point out to your mom that your bf loves you just the way you are, makeup isn't needed 

[Brentwood]

By the gods...

I only wear makeup these days at work for client meetings and equivalent occasions.  Outside of work it's for parties and equivalent things, like going to the opera.  I actually look better with makeup and while it doesn't take long for me to put it on, it somehow still seems like a big deal.

I look better with makeup on too, but sometimes I'm lazy. I never do the full shebang when I'm not going anywhere, because I don't want to waste it, but I usually do put on my Bare Minerals foundation because it makes me feel better. For just basic daytime running around - school, groceries, whatever - I wear Bare Minerals foundation, some mascara, and some lipstick. I always feel more "dressed" with lipstick.

I did do the school run with my hair in a ponytail and baseball cap today, though...

[kherbert05]

Are you my cousin - no wait they bought into this attitude - so you can't be one of them. (I love them dearly). My aunt gets on this kick with me occasionally, Mom gave up in HS, when I pointed out wearing makeup made me need make up. She also wants me to get contacts. No way with my allergies. Then she will turn around and praise my natural complextion.

No as long as you are clean, don't smell, and are dress appropriately for the task at hand you are not being rude.

The one that gets me is when cousins put on their "faces", do their hair, and go to the farm or to the river. Then they don't want to get their hair wet. Guess there is a reason I'm always out with the guys, kids, and Sis. 1/2 the time when we go out to dinner at the river or beach, my hair is still damp and up in a pony tail.

The tone of my aunt and cousins isn't comeing through. They are great fun, not toxic, just the don't get my hair wet thing started when we were still in elementary and JH. I'm part fish - and don't get not being under water.

[freakyfemme]

By the gods...

I only wear makeup these days at work for client meetings and equivalent occasions.  Outside of work it's for parties and equivalent things, like going to the opera.  I actually look better with makeup and while it doesn't take long for me to put it on, it somehow still seems like a big deal.

I look better with makeup on too, but sometimes I'm lazy. I never do the full shebang when I'm not going anywhere, because I don't want to waste it, but I usually do put on my Bare Minerals foundation because it makes me feel better. For just basic daytime running around - school, groceries, whatever - I wear Bare Minerals foundation, some mascara, and some lipstick. I always feel more "dressed" with lipstick.

I did do the school run with my hair in a ponytail and baseball cap today, though...

Same.  For everyday wear, I just put on concealer, eye shadow, mascara, and clear lip gloss, because I admit that I look better with make-up on too, or I at least *feel* better wearing it.  I hate wearing eyeliner, because I can never put it on quite right, it looks unnatural anyway.  Also, I hate foundation and blush, because it just feels like it's too much stuff on my face, you know?  I can't stand it when my skin feels like it's suffocating.  Oh, and I feel the same way about earrings, I always have to at least have my studs in.  Part of it is so the holes don't grow in, but also, the way I see it, earrings are a fashion statement, and empty piercings are just scars.

[Gileswench]

I never wear makeup anymore because I like my beloved to kiss me and he hates to taste lipstick.

Not that I wore it much back then, but I used to once in a while. Now I don't bother. I figure as long as I shower regularly, any personal grooming beyond that is between me and my preferences with a tiny nod now and again to my beloved's if it's something that doesn't bother me. Sometimes he just looks at me when I'm sitting around in no makeup with my hair hanging loose and wearing jeans and a tee shirt and tells me how great I'm looking. Sometimes it happens when I'm a bit more dressed up. I figure that's because he sees beyond the shell to what's going on inside of me spiritually.

I've been dressing up a little bit more of late, but it's purely because I've been feeling good about myself and wanting to show off how good I feel...not because my beloved wanted me to or becuase it's somehow disrespectful to him if I don't do myself up.

Failure to wear makeup is not rude. Trying to convince someone she's being rude by not wearing makeup is rude.

[Venus193]

I am very particular about makeup when I do wear it.  I use liquid eyeliner because it lasts longer and I have a sufficiently steady hand to apply it.  Black mascara only.  And lipstick only for photos because I hate the way it feels.

[kkl123]

Makeup is non-essential, despite what your mother says.  Mine's still ragging on me to carry a purse... I finally made her figure out when the last time it was I carried a purse regularly -- about 35 years ago.

We finally made a pact... I don't rag on her to wear a girdle (the garment she most hated 35 years ago), and she doesn't rag on me about purses.  Or makeup.

[snoopygirl]

I have never figured out just WHY we need to paint our faces up.  Guys don't have to do it to be accepted.

But then Mom never wore makeup.  Your face is your face. Treat it your way.  I would rather see a "naked" face then one that you could scrape your name in.

Makeup just feels so phony on my face.  Like, that's not who I am.

I feel the same way. I never wear makeup expect every once in a while ( and that's only because  my cheeks get very red). I dont feel the need to wear makeup all the time. My mom wears very little so I think I get that from her. As long as I am clean and my hair is brushed why do I need to wear makeup. My fiance thinks I look fine without it.

[Clara Bow]

Tell her you'll wear makeup for him when he wears leopard print thongs and a James Brown sequined cape for you.
I quit fooling with makeup when I started school. All that walking around in the heat with makeup melting down my face was downright unpleasant. Not to mention the fact that I'm not there to impress anyone, I'm there to learn. I wore it to work because I felt it enhanced my professional appearance, but I don't fool with it now unless I am going somewhere special. It's a comfort thing, if you're comfortable, then leave it off. I think people look pretty when they go natural anyway.