My DH and I can't take any credit, though it's nice of you guys to say so.
This really does boil down to nephew1 wanting a different life. He still has a ways to go but he's on the right track.
As far as nephew2, he's chosen the more difficult path but he can still succeed. I hope he realizes it, esp during the new few, most difficult, months.
I just ordered nephew2's baby a crib mattress and some cute outfits. It feels weird purchasing baby items for nephew2.
As you can imagine, his girlfriend and K'nnihave do not get along. (Gee, shocker!) Nephew2 keeps telling K'nnihave to "grow up and stop acting like a child" so I know there's hope for him yet!
At any rate, it's their ball game now. I'm just an observer. I'll be here if they ever need me but I will not intervene. They are adults, making adult decisions. It's all up to them now.