I've been lurking and recently joined because of my co-workers. Well...co-worker.
How does one respond to the following query? I'd like to be polite, yet also get the message across that the question is intrusive and embarrassing.
BG: I work in a corporate office. Mostly women. It is my opinion that the women in the office share too much of their personal lives for an office setting. The lines of appropriate office behavior and personal life behavior get blurred at times. Also, both co-worker and myself have worked there for many years. :End BG
It was my birthday a couple of weeks ago. My sister had flowers delivered to the office. She sends flowers every year. I also started seeing someone new within the last couple of months. When the flowers arrived, co-worker loudly asked, within earshot of most of the office, "Ooh! Are those from HIM?!" She does this every year. I've never had an SO send flowers or gifts to the office.
It should be noted that co-worker is quite bitter about being single.
Now, this is the woman that drove me to this site. I'm sure I'll have other posts about her. But this seemed like the most applicable one to start with since I am really asking for help.
There is no way to answer that question- "are those from him?"- without my response sounding like this:
"Nope, apparently he doesn't love me. I guess my sister loves me, but not HIM."
See what I mean? Is she doing this on purpose?
I hadn't found this site yet when this happened so I stuttered out something about no, they're from my sister, but I'm sure I'll have something nice waiting for me at home.
I know now that I was under no obligation to explain the intentions and plans of my boyfriend. But what should I have said instead?
These kinds of issues come up all the time. As I'm the receptionist/head office assistant, I have to be nice or at least neutral to everyone. I can't have anyone upset with me.
What say you? How would you have answered?