Etiquette of high school da[color=black]ting[/color]

[Friday]

Ahhhh to be young again.....NOT...

I wouldn't trade age 42 for high school again....

My son dated a girl last year.  For valentines, I helped him make a pink minkee teddy bear.  Two days later, she broke up with him.  2 hours after that, she started calling saying she'd made a mistake.  They've danced around each other ever since.  They did go to prom.

2 weeks ago, during football practice, another boy asked Sam if he was still interested in the girl.  Sam told him yes.  A week after that, the boy and the girl started dating.  Sam feels a little betrayed, but understands and is pretty laid back.

tonight, he went to the State Fair with those two and several other class mates.  Sam has had some major drug and alcohol problems and we keep him on a tight leash.  One part of that is that he has NO money.  The former GF was actually the one who invited him along and covered his admission.

At one point during the evening, the couple ditched the rest of the crowd.  Shortly after that, the girl that Sam was pretty much partnering up with told Sam that the couple told her that Sam's intention was to be nice to her so that he could "get laid".  ??!!

This is a group of Christian school kids.  While I am sure there are hormones involved, this was simply the couple trying to make Sam look like a jerk and luckily the others were smarter.

I feel for my kid, but he seems to have his head screwed on straight over this.  The etiquette of parenting is that I have to stay out of it largely...!!!

[Clara Bow]

Shakespeare's advice to girls of dating age is best.
Get thee to a nunnery.

Lock boys in the closet. I dread my son's dating years....mine make the gulag look peachy. The only difference between Charles Manson and every guy I ever dated was Manson has the common decency to look crazy.

[jais]

Shakespeare's advice to girls of dating age is best.
Get thee to a nunnery.

I have to agree.  I plan to tie DD up from 13 to 30! 

[alecmari]

LOL!  Yea the good ol' high school days - God, they were awful.

Best suggestion I can give is don't ban dating completely.  My father, like good Hispanic fathers everywhere, banned dating when I was in high school.  I was allowed to go to school dances with "dates" but my father knew them and also knew that as my taste in guys wasn't that bad they really were just friends. 

I snuck out with the guys that I liked.   

[lilfaerhie]

Shakespeare's advice to girls of dating age is best.
Get thee to a nunnery.

there is actually some debate about whether that meant convent or house of ill-repute. according to my edition (bantam shakespeare) it meant the latter. what do the english majors think?


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christian or not, i can bet that they aren't all virgins if they are in later high school. sorry that your son was hit with such a bad rumor but it seems that, whatever that couple or others do, people know that your son isn't just interested in s-e-x, and thats a good thing.

i'd say just listen, comfort, and pray they all go to separate colleges.

[sbtier]

The only difference between Charles Manson and every guy I ever dated was Manson has the common decency to look crazy.

I have to admit I laughed at that!   

[Lisbeth]

I don't think either keeping your mouth shut or completely preventing dating for teenagers is healthy for them.

The only solution I think has any chance to work is to instill good values in your kids, monitor their friend and dating situation closely, and step in whenever it seems that your child is really about to get into trouble, but otherwise keep any negative thoughts to yourself unless the need to step in becomes evident.  It requires a lot of judgment calls, but I honestly don't see any way for a kid to grow up and learn to deal with the opposite sex in a mature way.

[Calbrini]

to this day I wish my parents had just kept out of a lot of boyfriend stuff when I was at school. A lot of things they used to say I would thank them for later which I can say is true. interfering in my 'love life' (if you could call it that) was not one of those things.

 I never learned to figure out a lot of stuff for myself as they were always telling me whats what, or rather what was what in their day.

[WildChild@Heart]

Having already lived through the teen dating years with my Son, all I can say is I'd happily raise 10 teen boys as long as I never have to raise a teen girl. 

[Texas Mom]

Shakespeare's advice to girls of dating age is best.
Get thee to a nunnery.

I have to agree.  I plan to tie DD up from 13 to 30! 

My pastor told me they have Presbyterian convents in Switzerland for $30K a year!

[Twik]

My father tried to convince me to consider becoming a nun when I was 14.

We weren't Catholic.

[jais]

Shakespeare's advice to girls of dating age is best.
Get thee to a nunnery.

I have to agree.  I plan to tie DD up from 13 to 30! 

My pastor told me they have Presbyterian convents in Switzerland for $30K a year!

That seems like quite a bargain, AND she'd get to see some of Europe!  Where do I seing up?? 

[kareng57]

I can't say a whole lot - I have no daughters, only sons.

But I did overhear one piece advice from DS #1 to #2 (they're all of a year apart in age) - "girls are MOODY! You just have to do your best to try to figure out what you did wrong".  DS #1 was all of 18 at the time.

[nolechica]

The tighter you clamp down, the more problems you'll have, from what the girls I went to school with did.

[PoisonIvy]

My father tried to convince me to consider becoming a nun when I was 14.

We weren't Catholic.

I'm glad I wasn't drinking my tea when I read that.