Someone will always sniff at the way a wedding is arranged, but i wonder if the OP was the same person who compained about wedding they had attended with no bridesmaids, the MOB and MOG in simple summer dresses, the bride wearing a wax hair ornament that was yellowed with age, because it had been her grandmother's, and a reception with no booze, no music, and only a sheet cake instead of a traditional cake.
E-hellions reactions were much the same to that person, that it's about having what you want, that you don'tahve to have yards of attendants, and morning dress, that booze and a three tiered cake are not obligatory, and how nice to honour Grandma's memory by wearing the hair ornament that she wore.