THe situation: Person is holding or passing a baby and gushing over it (their baby or someone else's), then thye turn to you and go "isn't he the cutest thing! Doesn't he make YOU want one of your own?!"
My response tends to be along the lines of "Well he sure IS cute" and TRY to leave it at that,
rather than the rather more truthful
"Well he IS cute, and if I were a person who wanted kids, maybe..."
or the much more truthfull,
"Cute, maybe, but I still prefer a cat"
and the REALLY truthfull,
""Cute?yes. Want one myself? HECK (not the word I would have chosen) NO!"
I find this question kind of annoying, because it runs the risk of someone being forced to lie about their own perosnal preferences for themself or being 'rude'.
Anyone else have this problem?
Somebody told me a family isn't complete without children. I don't think that is true. Although my husband and I are undecided right now (if we do have children we'd wait a few years), I find that statement insulting to couples who can't have children or who are simply happy without them. I am 30 and my DH just turned 34 so we also have people telling us we should have children 'soon' if we want to have them which is also very annoying. It is so easy for people to inquire and tell other people they should have children or when to have them, like it is some small decision, but they are not the ones who will be putting in the time, expense, and everything else into raising them.
Some snappy awnsers for this question.
1. "Sure, he/she is cute now. But to judge how cute he/she is overall, I also need to see him/her with a dirty diaper, waking me up every three hours during the middle of the night, and spitting up on my good clothes. Better yet, I'll see how cute the baby is when he/she enters the terrible 2's"
2. "Let's make a deal, I'd be glad to have a baby, but you have to babysit whenever I want and contribute to their college fun. Give me a $10,000 advance and we'll start trying for one."
3. "No way! If I get pregnant, I'd have a big belly for bikini season."
4. "Well, the baby sure is cute; however I don't want to contribute to the world's overpopulation problem."
5. "Can you explain why my having children is so important to you?"
Usually I just awnser truthfully, my DH and I have only been married for less than a year and children are way down the road if we decide to have them at all. I also mention we are very happy with each other and enjoy our free time, a full nights rest, vacations, and romantic dinners out and we aren't ready to give that up soon.